I just needed a bit of a rant so please excuse me..... Had a total meltdown yesterday but managed to pull it back thanks to whywhy....
Been in a relationship with a lovely guy for 18 months..... he lives 100 miles from me so I travelle d up every weekend, moved there last year and gave up my job etc, but soon after he went away to work and his mother started to make my life a misery... I tried telling him but he woulndt listen....
So ive called it a day as some of you know.... he wont move here...
I mainly called it a day cos his mother will not stop interfering in our life, has made my life a misery saying inappropriate things like 'if I could give him sex, maybe Id get more'... he gives her £150 per week.....
She has gone in our bedroom and just come walking down in my new dress that even I hadnt tried on.....Constantly trying to tell me what to do and interfere.... Ive tried telling him but he wont listen...
So thats it I walked away..... and today I have recieved the nastiest text message from his mother that there was no need for..... Im having a hard time too with it.... I still love him and care deeply for him..... but cant cope with her anymore.....
So i forwarded the nasty message to him and said this is what im talking about.... once agian he defended her saying its just cos I was ill yesterday....
Im suffering too...... doesnt my mental health matter!!
Anyway I just had to get some anger out... so sorry everyone....
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Have a rant Anne , get it all out ...i wont say anything else as we have been speaking , but glad you have done blog
But if he isn't going to realise then its his loss, as much as you may love him you don't deserve to live like this! They deserve each other because of her he will probably forever be alone because she will never accept anyone in his life, which is very sad. But you were the bigger, better person and accepted in yourself you don't need that in your life!
Thank you...... Its very hard at the minute, but I know I have done the right thing and she has shown in writing her true colours, so any doubt I had about it being the right thing was confirmed it was.... I feel sad for him too.... but this is his choice to put his mum first... hes is 49 for gods sake....
thank you for your message, it helps to know Im not the only one that thinks she is out of order!!
I don't doubt its hard i don't even know how i would begin to feel if i broke it off with my partner, but you just gotta dust yourself off, keep busy and do things for you!
She sounds like a silly bitter old woman, and she needs to get a grip! Theres a fine line between being protective and going over the top and shes so over that line she can't even see it haha!
Yes his a man, and he should know better. He could of had the best of both worlds but it seems he wasn't there to listen to you properly, that is someone you don't need, you did the right thing.
Hi Anne, it must hurt very much but sounds like you have made the right decision. Their relationship sounds quite unhealthy and certainly not what you need. Sounds like she is very dependent on him but as others have said, if he doesn't sort it out he will end up alone as cant see any woman putting up with that!
Well it went from bad to worse with nasty text messags off his mum and sister......
sorry to hear that Anne. Why a 49 year old mum or sister think they can interfere in his life in that way ... But although you feel for him it does sound as though the family has an odd relationship and you have probably done the right thing. I hope you have told them not to contact you again, especially if they can't be civil!
My ex- partner is 49.... his mother is 70......
I ve changed my number so that I dont get any more abuse.... but spoke to the ex and told him why.....He has been lovely through all this and not malicious..... but wont listen to what is mum has done and defends her.... so a little pathetic.... they are welcome to each other....
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