Husband going out without me

[Andrea1232]

My husband has planned a night out just after Xmas and my anxiety is through the roof he's did stuff in the past that's broke my trust but I'm also so insecure in myself as I have put alot of weight on since having my kids plus anxiety is really bad I struggle to leave the house I haven't been on a night out since before I had my first born he's now almost 9! I'm so scared and I feel so alone especially when he's not here

[kenster1]

hi if you gave him another chance after hurting you before then you have to move on from it and give him his day out I know only to well how you feel although I cant prove I have ever been cheated on but things happened that made me paranoid every time my mrs picked up her phone.i gave her the benefit of the doubt I cant keep bringing up the past hurts.you need time out as well why don't you plan a night out together or even family day outs over the holidays create great memories together.

[LMOS]

Being body positive is state of mind but your anxiety is preventing you from getting out there. Do you have close circle of friends or a sibling that you can go out with even just lunch? Just getting out will boost your confidence. You have just as much a right to enjoy yourself as your husband. Be strong and please remember your body does not define who you are and there is nothing wrong with loving yourself for a change

[Andrea1232]

Thanks for ur replys but wee have now split up within posting this lol

[auntiesally in reply to Andrea1232]

Go girl, be strong

[Lynl]

9 years is a long time, and he and you should go out together, even counseling on how to get that date night back. You said you feel insecure about your weight , I just went through a weight loss journey that seemed like it was never going to work since March , I’m 4 ft 11 and was 172pounds joined yoga , gave up the crap, bought a goal cute outfit and now weigh 124 pounds in a size 4. It changed my whole appearance. Don’t give up, you can do this and set your goals a little at a time , make a list and Chechen off your accomplishments as you conquer them, go out with friends & family, get your mind and body healthy. ❤️Keep in touch