Please help I’m in a state

Hi Ckd123

Sorry to hear about your uncle’s passing.

It sounds like you are fairly young and likely in good physical health so... you are not likely to die today. Breathe, go for a walk, do something to distract your mind.

I would suggest you focus on what’s within your control:

1) breathe

2) get your gp to do a physical exam to establish your baseline health and risk factors. Then develop a plan that incorporates rest, meds, exercise, and diet.

3) if you have not already done so get a referral to a psychiatrist or psychologist

4) focus on controlling what you can control and accepting what is out of your control.

I don’t think your family is “cursed”. There may be some congenital health factors you have to deal with but I would suggest you start with the facts and go from there.

Hope that helps.

I'm sorry for everything you're dealing with right now. I would recommend taking the xanax as prescribed and not just as needed for a while. I used to take mine as needed, but I've found lately that I need to take it regularly or I'm a mess. Is your prescription written for "as needed" or for a certain number of times per day?

Why be anxious of death?

When you die, it's either the end or if you believe in something we might go to a better place but it's most probably just the end.

My dad's sister died at 35, and I'm 35 and this year is when my anxiety screws with me. LOL. When I was a kid I always thought I'd be dead by 35 because my dad said I took after my aunt. I'm going to be 36 in two weeks and I'm on an anti-anxiety med now that is working (anxiety runs in my family) I would try to get off the anti-anxiety meds that are "as needed" and take an anti-depressant (maybe prozac doesn't work for you, I take lexapro and it's been awesome, talk to your doctor.

Prozac didn’t work for me it made me worse so stopped it after 5 weeks how long have u been taken it for always speak to your doctor

My condolences for your losses💔

I have had a lot of loss in my life too so I can empathize with how you must be feeling.

You certainly have a terrible medical family history.

I find music or ambient sounds (rain fall) can be quite helpful when I need to take a moment to calm my anxiety.

Have you thought of speaking to a naturopath?

Look to see if there’s a school for naturopaths wherever you live because usually they have a clinic that the students work in. Much cheaper than regular naturopath and they are overseen by naturopathic doctors.

Sorry to ramble. I hope you find some peace in the happy memories of your loved ones.

really feel for you. I had panic attack after my brother in laws funeral two weeks ago, have been anxious ever since, going to try valium and counselling. Counselling your train of thought will help you greatly. I do trust you will be fine

I may not have much advice to give , but just want to say sorry for your loss . I too have had many losses in life , the most traumatic being my mother’s , I know how painful they are and how much mental and emotional strain they cause .

Hi there, im really sorry for your loss. It's totally understandable that you are experiencing this very heightened anxiety now. I to suffer from a fear of leaving my kids at a young age. I to have experienced quite a few losses at young ages which fuels my fear. I understand what you are going through and it's horrible I know. I think all parents have this fear it's very normal but people like you and me unfortunately find it a lot harder to deal with at times of stress etc. I find focusing on today, this very moment helps to ground me. I try not to think to much about the future and just enjoy this very moment in time. This will pass and you'll start to feel better again. Just take one day at a time and feel good about being here now with your kids because now is all that matters. You're going to be ok x

Bless your heart. For all you have been through. Sending you hugs. It’s really hard with health anxiety. I wish there was a magic fix. All you can do is take each day at a time. I found cbt helped me initially, however it’s not easy. The thing that helps me the most is communicating with others who know what it’s like. Xx

There are no 2 people alike..because someone passed from a medical condition does not mean you will. Example..my mom passed at 61 from breast cancer..I used to fear I wouldn't make it to her age of 61 and would get breast cancer. I am 69 today and am still here , no breast cancer. What you fear does not happen. Turn off the negative thinking.

It’s perfectly normal to grieve a Death , and feel what your feeling. It will pass !

Prozac for anxiety might not be good... I tried Prozac a number of years ago and my anxiety went through the roof! But medication react differently to different people so don’t take my word on it...

it makes sense that you would be struggling with the death of your uncle. There’s nothing wrong with you for feeling it. In fact, I’ve learned a profound and yet simple truth—give yourself permission to feel the pain and grief. If you don’t, the pain will be replaced by all sorts of bad feelings...anxiety, depression, guilt, ... give yourself a season to grieve, ask the hard questions, and just be sad. Then when it’s time, (different for different people) pick yourself back up, along with the support of others, and live again...