Broken hearted

[Anxiously1]

Hello I need some advice. I was with my boyfriend of 8 years got engaged about a year ago and about 3 months ago he just up and left me no phone call or text and I have been calling him and texting him and no response. Now I feel like I was taken for granted all of these years. I have since found my own place and I need some extra money. Is it ok to sell my engagement ring for the money because I have a child to take care of. I just want to do something with the ring because every time I look at it or think about what he did it just makes my anxiety come.

[Traz60]

Dear Anxiously1,

First let me say how sorry I am to hear that you're dealing with a situation such as this. I won't pretend to know that I can give you the perfect advice, because I haven't walked a mile in your shoes. Not to mention, over the course of 8 years I'm sure there's a million pieces of information that I know nothing about. However, I can say this...If he just up and walked away after 8 yrs. and now won't even give you the courtesy of a return phone call, SELL THAT RING and use the money for whatever you and your child need. My heart truly goes out to you! After all, you invested 8 yrs. of your life devoting yourself to this person. I can't possibly understand why he just up and left and I won't even try to get you to explain. In my honest opinion, if he isn't willing to give you the benefit of some closure by telling you why he left, then I would not even try to contact him again, unless the child you have belongs to him, then perhaps future contact is necessary. That has to be your decision. Please move on with your life and know that all people are not like him. No one deserves to be treated like you've been treated. I think what he has done to you is very cruel. Anyway, the ring was his gift to you and now he won't even take a phone call so I would sell it without a second thought. Move forward and never look back. While I know there's always 2 sides to every story, If you didn't do anything to cause him to leave (and I'm assuming you did not), I think his behavior his cruel and the sooner you move on the better off you'll be. If at all possible, please just put him in your rearview mirror. I wish you all the best that life and love has to offer. There are others who will not treat you this way. Focus your efforts on yourself and your child and try to put him out of your mind. Above all else, sell that ring along with the memory it holds and take care of yourself! I'm sending lots of hugs, best wishes and many prayers for a brighter future for you and your child! May God bless you abundantly and bring you the peace of mind you deserve!

[Anxiously1 in reply to Traz60]

Thank you so much for those kind words. I don’t know if I’m crying because of what you just told me or because of the whole situation that I am going through!

[Traz60 in reply to Anxiously1]

I'm so sorry the thoughts of this whole situation is still causing you so much grief. Please do yourself the biggest favor of all, and move on with your life. Find your joy in that beautiful child you have and the dreams of the lucky person who will eventually get to marry you. The sooner the better! You've already given him too much of your life. Please don't give him any more. The rest of your life belongs to you, not the one who basically left you standing at the hypothetical alter. It's long past time to give him anymore of your energy. Now it's time to turn that sorrow into positive, forward thinking. Go and sell that ring and get this monkey off your back once and for all! Tomorrow is the first day of the rest of your life, so make it all worthwhile and allow yourself to move on. The sooner you let go, the sooner you can begin to heal from all the hurt he caused. Let it all begin right now! I'm rooting for you!

[Anxiously1 in reply to Traz60]

Thank you so much for those encouraging words!!

[Donkster in reply to Anxiously1]

If you don’t know the reason he is behaving this way just wait you can still move forward but what if he’s doing all this for say something like he has an illness that he didn’t want to put you through and just can’t bring himself to tell you? How would you feel about getting rid of the ring then. It’s wise to wait nothing gained by hasty actions. I just wanted to help you but if this isn’t I’m truly sorry 😐

[Anxiously1 in reply to Donkster]

I completely understand what you mean! Maybe I should give it some more time.

[Donkster in reply to Anxiously1]

It’s not about the ring anyway 🙏 keep the faith hold your head up and be want you want to be the ring just materialistic

[Anxiously1 in reply to Donkster]

I understand. Thank you for the advice! Cause in my eyes the ring is materialistic.

[Donkster in reply to Anxiously1]

Looks like everyone can’t be wrong so sell the ring and everything will be fine Problem solved. Maybe you should have just done it if you need the money for your child then it’s a good enough reason. I hope you feel better soon

[Sianlenthall]

I am truly sorry to have just read what you are going though. But you sell that ring, do not feel guilty, you have your child to think about now. He does not deserve all your time, time to put yourself and your little one first.

Take care xxx

[Anxiously1 in reply to Sianlenthall]

I agree!! Thank you so much for the kind words! Tomorrow will be a brand new start for me!

[Cat33]

Really sorry to hear about your boyfriend just up and leaving you especially with a child If you know he is safe and alive then I wouldn't hesitate to sell that ring Why keep it if it makes you feel so upset and anxious

I know it's an old cliché but time does heal you will move on and find someone who will make you very happy

First step is to sell the ring and the rest will follow

Wishing you all the very very best of happiness xx

[MalcolmCClark]

Yes I am with everyone. If you need the cash that selling the ring will bring then do it. You and your child come first. I can't say why he left or supply any reason but you are doing the right thing by moving on. If you nerd advice or help or just a listening ear everyone is here so just shout and you will be answered.

All the best for the future. Be strong and move forward.

[Anxiously1 in reply to MalcolmCClark]

Thank you for the advice also! I have decided to move on. Because I don’t want to think about it anymore.

[Brumchick]

Hi.

Im so sorry to hear that you have been treated so poorly.If this man doesnt have the bottle to even give you closure ,you were wasting your time on him anyway.Concentrate on your beautiful child. Sell the ring. It is his gift to you the moment he gives it to you .in law.Now just to reinforce. I know you are raw ad probably wondering why am i being treated so worthlessly.The fault is in his character not yours.Sometimes when we love ,we fool ourselves that the other person loves us equaly as much.Judge a person by their actions not their words.He has spoken loud and clearly to you even though hes a rat for being so cruel a d cowardly.Ive loved deeply three times in my life.Each time it ended i was heartbroken.One was a smooth talking lier. But very funny, another was a two timer, and another just walked away as i was miscarrying our baby.?i thought my heart would never heal again.Guess what ,within a year i had met a really decent wonderful man .We have now been married 22 years and although we have had the odd row,they were not cruel ones. He has always treated me with such great respect.He too makes me laugh. But i know he is decent also a d he has ne er let me down when hard times have come calling.to us.Yu too will meet someone worthy of you.!just listen to their actions ,they speak far more clearly than words ever can and you will find happiness in yor future.Dont look back. Even if he should crawl back to you in the future he burned those bridges when he crushed yr heart under his foot as he slunk out like the rat that he is without a by yor leave.That is real cruelty there.You could ne er trust him again anyway so that is well and truly behind you.If he is the childs father then you may need to leave some contact channels open.If he wants to see the child ,let him even though yu will be tempted to ask why?i iT doesnt matter why ,he isnt the man you thought he was so why worry about him should he attempt to crawl back .Keep your head high .Accept nothing but decent behaviour from people and yu will attract the right type of man in the futre.Remember. You are great you can love , mother ,and survive ! I wish you all the best.Sell the ring. Dont look back and things will get better i promise .

[Anxiously1 in reply to Brumchick]

Thank you for the advice!! The child wasn’t his. It was from a previous. But what puzzles me the most is why would you ink my sons name on you and then leave unexpectedly. That is the one thing that makes my mind wonder.

[Brumchick in reply to Anxiously1]

Because he is fickle in his emotionsBoth toward you and his would be stepson.The fact that he could demonstrate such a blase act towards abonding your son as well proves that he is not mature , he is weak and fickle and not a person whom you should spend one more moment of your time wondering about.Also maybe he liked the confered Kodoes by being seen to take up the task of would be parent.It allows him to feel good about himself , and have others also confer onto him a goodness trait that he would like others to beleive is true of himLike i said ,actions speak loudy if you will just listen to them.Far better that you both find ot now what he is really like than build a life eith him may e have more children and have him skip out on all of you.Unfortunately. En like him dont seem to be a rarity these days.If he really cared one iota about yr little boy he would have tred to arrange to see him. Even by asking a mutual friend to approach you on his behalf if he felt he couldnt talk to you himself .nope , actions speak clearly and there is no ambiguity i to them either, A person either acts or they dont .

Goodluck .

[Daniellesparkles]

Sweetie so sorry to hear about that! Maybe he wasn’t the right guy I mean what guy just leaves! Without saying anything😐 I agree with everyone here. Sell the ring.

You’ll find the right guy soon enough

[Anxiously1 in reply to Daniellesparkles]

Thank you for the advice! I’ve always wondered why he left me but now I just gave up on wondering.