I don't suffer from anxiety, but I'm about 95% sure that my husband does. I have been reading through old/new posts and I just feel like I need to post -- My husband has been having heart palpitations, dizziness, weakness, stomach pains, tingling sensation in arms/legs, no motivation and more since 2014! I initially thought it was anxiety/stress but when we first went to see our PCM, they just threw pills at him. The first night he took them, he felt like he wanted to kill me so he immediately quit. And since then, he has been seeing different doctors/specialists to figure out what is wrong with him. He has been seen for stomach issues and had colonoscopy, endoscopy, kidney stone removal, currently he is going to physical therapy for neck pain/dizziness and has an appt in July with a vertigo specialist. He's also had multiple EKGs and several MRIs and xrays on different parts of his body. No medical professional has been able to find/diagnose him with anything (excluding the kidney stones - they were removed). He reads a lot about his symptoms and almost always finds a new disease/condition it could be or jumps straight to cancer, but all the blood work he has ever done comes back negative. I've been supporting him with all of his endeavors to figure out what is wrong with him, because if I tell him I believe its due to anxiety he instantly shuts me down and claims that it cannot cause all the issues he has. He just isn't himself and doesn't like enjoy the things he used to. HE has fleeting moments of joy and then he goes back to feeling as if he is going to fade away and leave me alone with our girls. I apologize for this being so long, I just don't know how to help him and I want more than anything for him to get better...
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I'm so sorry that you have to deal with all of this. If he has gone through all the medical stuff and they have no answers, it is probably anxiety, and it is ugly to deal with - not only for the person who has it, but everyone else as well. This usually doesn't go away by itself as far as I can tell. I kind of went through what your husband is going through, imagining the worse and sure there was something horribly wrong with me that just wasn't apparent to a doctor or anyone else. The best thing I did was find a psychologist to help me work through all this to put things in some kind of perspective. I chose to try and do this without medication, and fortunately it worked for me. I am not 100% back yet, but I am so much better and have learned strategies to deal with anxiety when it rears it's ugly head. It is no longer a 24/7 type of thing for me and the fears and physical stuff seems to have lessened as time goes on. All I can say is when it first started, it was the scariest thing I have ever experienced in my life! I was sure I was losing my mind. My husband did everything he could to help me, and I know it was very hard on him to see my falling apart and not really having any way to help me feel better. I think the whole thing is just as hard for those who love us. I know having a good counselor/psychologist really was a lifeline for me. Maybe you can encourage him to see someone. I lucked out and the one I chose was great. It's not an overnight process, it took me about 3 -4 months of weekly counseling, throwing in some meditation, breathing practices, etc. to actually see some real progress. I'm still a work in progress - it's been about 8 months and I am so much better equipped to deal with whatever comes. I hope that you and your family can find some peace and get to a better place - it is possible.
Thank you so much! Yes it is exhausting because he looks to me for answers and I cannot help him and at times it makes me feel helpless, but I know that it is something I can't do for him. I found out today that one of our close friends' husband deals with his form of severe anxiety, so I am going to ask him to talk to my husband. Afterall, advice is better from a someone other than your spouse right? 
I am also going to do some more research and try and find him a psychologist that fits his personality and won't continue to ask him "how does that make you feel" becuase he won't continue treatment if thats the case. I'm glad you have found ways to cope and are doing better, that gives me hope for him and I know he can do it, he just has to be 100% willing to invest and try something else.
It's a tough scenario and bless you for standing with your husband. My past 3 months have been much like your husband's but improving. I would get over one symptom and then another would arise. No drugs used to help me because I knew it wouldn't solve the actual problem. I found what I think will be a life saver for me and scheduled an appointment for later this month. It's a matter of what he's feeling. The symptoms he's experiencing are real but no medical tests can explain it. Check out the info below and see if you think it would help. Best of luck!
Bless you for standing by him. M husband has been very supportive with me and he is still with me through all the ups and downs of anxiety and panic disorder. You are amazing and it's great to hear how supportive you are. He needs to see a psychologist so he/she can explain what it is for him to come to terms with the fact he has anxiety and is not dying. I wish you both all the love in the world as its bloody tough but you will get there and he will find a way to accept his anxiety and get the help he needs to get through it. Go with him to a psychologist so you can be there for him. Goodluck xx
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