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How to deal with crazy parents??

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I am anxious, depressed and agoraphobic but worst of all - forced to live with my parents. I'm in college, I've got no job, no money, I am stuck here for at least FIVE MORE YEARS by my calculations and I'm losing it! I'll never get any better living like this!

My mother is a housewife, been that way for 30 years now, and she is BORED. She doesn't want to work!! Whenever someone asks why, she says she is "extremely busy at home and raising the kids". The "kids" are 32, 29 and 21 years old. The house we clean (those same "kids" - well what's left of us, the oldest one finally managed to move out and the other is going soon, too). All she even does is cook something for lunch and just lies around on the couch all day long. The rest of the day she either brings home some obnoxious old lady to talk to (she doesn't have any friends - and for some WEIRD reason she only likes to hang out with women who are like 20 or more years older than her and also EXTREMELY bitter) or complains about something and drives me insane. I can't even talk to her without her accusing me of having some hidden agenda - today she yelled at me for asking "what kind of meat did you buy?" because "I had a nasty tone saying it". What??? And then, when I move away from her, she complains that I never hang out with her. How can I hang out with someone who starts arguing after 5 minutes of a normal conversation?

My dad works abroad, but he is coming back home soon and staying for good. He does not get along with my mother, at all. For obvious reasons. He is usually nice - but he has some "rules" that he stubbornly defends. He expects me to go to church every Sunday (I don't go to church anymore - and he doesn't accept that) and some other things. He says "I always get my way" whenever you try really hard to defy him, he is also a complainer.

Basically they are both unpleasant to live with. They never even so much as give me a pat on the back when I do everything perfectly, and if I fail at even one tiny thing, I won't stop hearing the end of it. I am not close to either of them and it pains me because I see other people my age getting along with their parents. Their repulsive behavior towards me and their constant arguing when they're together is too much for me to handle - I have no idea what to do :/ I wish I could move out, but there is no way right now, and I can't even leave my house to get away from them because I'm agoraphobic... what to do??

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ONCE THEY GET UNDER YOUR SKIN IT IS BAD HIDE IN YOUR ROOM OR IN THE BACEMENT THE MORE U TALK TO THEM U WILL LOSE YOUR MIND

I MADE A MESS OUT OF MY SELF BRCAUSE THAY HATED ME SO BAD I HATED MY SELF SAVE YOUR SELF BECAUSE PEASE OF MIND CAN DISAPEAR

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GoWest

What is your college major? Is there any way you can graduate sooner and get a job?

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Sweetlolly11 in reply to GoWest

Psychology. I go to college in Croatia - I have to go for another 5 years.

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