This goes along with anxiety because my 13 yr old daughter has me in knots. I never know if I'm going to encounter Evil M or Sweet M. I want to say that her sweet side is genuine- it is not a manipulation. But her evil side. She told me once she hated me. Broke my heart. I would never say those words to someone unless I meant it. So to see it flow so freely off her tongue is awful. All of my close friends have boys so the behavior is different. For her, it is drama, smart mouth, stomping, ignoring.... I guess I'm different because I would never dream of acting that way when I was a teen. I suspect she suffers from anxiety as well but it is so hard for a 13 yr old to know what is going on let alone verbalized it. I feel as if I can't take the roller coaster anymore
I did some reading this morning and it looks as though I'm completely co dependent on her mood. I am the peace maker in the family and try to keep things harmonious. But with a 17, 13, and a 4 yr old, that is so hard.
I just want some reassurance from those who may have acted out as teen that you still love your parents. I want to hear from parents who couldn't stand to be around their kids as teens but they are quite close now. I also want to hear from people that it is necessary that I disengage myself dr my daughter in order for my own health. I KNOW this but the mere thought makes me shake and cry out of fear. I feel I need to control her moods. What if I let go and our lives go to hell!