Help-Anxiety everyday for the last 3months since my dad passed. Help needed

[SamSik1]

Hi everyone, I wake up with this feeling of worry, nervousness, fast beating heart, a wave of fear every day, I don't know how to control it and I don't want to take medication. Can you please help

[Bramwell]

Sadly this is quite a normal reaction to loosing a loved one.

I went through exactly the same after my dad died.

[SamSik1 in reply to Bramwell]

Thanks for the reply. Is there anything I can do to beat this? It's starting to control my daily life. Thanks

[cpmydream in reply to SamSik1]

Sorry for your loss !!

First thing is your body is feeling anxious because of soemthing danger it thinks is outside and the mind tries to generate adrenaline to cope with that danger!

[SamSik1 in reply to cpmydream]

Thank you. I still havnt found a way to cope with it. I start to hate waking up because of the bad day that is awaiting me. I'm writing this now while my heard I pounding

[Gambit62]

As others day - this is a normal grief reaction.

When my father died I found that putting an old pair of his spectacles at the top of the stairs really helped me as I'd see it and it would be comforting when I went up and down the stairs.

I think the brain has a hard time coming to terms with the loss of a loved one and part of that is a sense of not understanding and maybe on some level questioning if they ever existed which is why I think that the spectacles helped me. Your dad still is and always will be alive in your memories.

There are a lot of cultural rituals around grieving for a friend or family member. In some cultures there is a formal grieving period of a year for the loss of a parent so it can obviously take a while to adjust.

[SamSik1 in reply to Gambit62]

Thanks for reply my friend, appreciate it. It's like this feeling doesn't wanna go, in afraid I won't get over this and it will stick with me forever. I would love to live normal days but this obstacle is always limiting me and freaking me out

[Gambit62 in reply to SamSik1]

I don't think you every really get over the death of a parent and there will be times even years down the line when things will come back but the reality is that as time goes on the pain does get less prominent. It may also help to share good memories of your father with people. You need to get to the point where a thought of your father doesn't immediately put you back in that moment when you heard about your father's death and everything that came immediately after. Talking to people about his life can definitely help with that.

[SamSik1 in reply to Gambit62]

Thank you and once again papers out your help. I will try to do that, it's the pounding of my heart and dear that's got control of me for no reason.