need friends

[Victoria_99]

hello lately - I have been feeling overwhelmed depressed in always crying I know I just lost my mother in March and yes it's been hard for me I took you my mother for 7 years she need a kidney transplant did she was in the first phrase old timersbut she's not here with me anymore I have a lot of free time on my hands need to find me some Friends.because I'm tired of being lonely,lately I have been staying in the house a lot more now..

[anxietygal11]

Hello, I've found that company is sometimes the best cure for anxiety and depression, at least for me. Feel free to drop me a message anytime

[Victoria_99 in reply to anxietygal11]

thank you so much and I will do that just want to have sex

[Victoria_99 in reply to Victoria_99]

I'm sorry I didn't mean to say that ....my microphone sometimes type what it what

[Kirsty456]

Hi I also feel same I cope better when I am around people also

Feel free to message me also

Kirsty x

[Victoria_99 in reply to Kirsty456]

Thank You kristy..I will also message you when I need to talk to someone thank you so much

[maggie91]

Im so sorry for your loss. Go ahead and cry. It will help your grieving process. The first year is hard. I dont know if you go to a church but many of them have grievement groups you can attend. Talking to others going through loss will help you.

[Victoria_99]

thank you so much..yes I do go to church.I just joined this group at Roberto's house is the people that lost a loved ones

[BettyA]

Hi Victoria! Glad you contacted this site. I'm sorry for what you are going through... Here are just a couple of simple ideas that you might try. It sounds like you drive, right? If so, find the nearest coffee shop, taking a good book or magazine and just GET OUT OF THE HOUSE! That is what I do and it really helps. Go for walks!...even if you DO NOT feel like it!! Honest, it helps...even if its just walking around one block. Speak to people... say hi to them... find something about them to compliment them... "I like your hair, Mam"... and this can be really good medicine...

We HAVE to be the one to make the effort... I have a feeling you can do it!!! Good luck to you!

[Victoria_99 in reply to BettyA]

thank you so much for your advice I will definitely try do some of the things you suggested

[Jflowers]

Hi, I will keep you in my prayers. You will get stronger in time. Trust in the Lord and pray everyday. Things will improve, I am praying for you and this entire community.

[Victoria_99 in reply to Jflowers]

thank you so much for your prayers also will pray for you I also thank the Lord for his presence in my life for everything everyday he is so real in my heart ..thank you lord

[Jflowers in reply to Victoria_99]

Thank you, he will heal us. Keep faith and continue to pray.

[suzq53_99]

Hi Victoria,

Sorry for your loss. It does get better. My mom lived far away and passed just before mother's day. My husband had a punching bag in the basement and I was so upset that I punched the heck out of that bag without gloves on. Normally that would have hurt but, I didn't even feel it. Try rearranging the house if she lived with you so everything you look at isn't as much of a reminder. (My mother in law lived with us and thats what we did. ) Find a hobby outside of the house. Something to keep you busy and meet people. If you can, take a little vacation. Do you have children? They are usually a welcome distraction. Praying for you.

[vonnie61]

Hello .. i hope you feel better soon .you need to go out if you can take up a hobby .it helps s i know its hard but you are not alone there are support groups check them out ..godbless and try and stay positive

[TheHistoricalPresent]

Hi! I'm not sure how old you are. I lost my Mum to cancer when I was 19 (I'm 34 now). she had cancer twice, first when I was thirteen and it came back when I was 17 so I have a lot of sympathy with you dealing with here long term illness before the eventual death. it's different losing someone slowly to losing them suddenly, although both are tragic of course.

I think my mum's disease was a huge part of why I ended up with anxiety (especially health anxiety/fears).

Don't worry if you feel like you aren't even grieving "properly" yet. My grief came much much later, when everyone else was over it, so I was essentially alone and told to "get over it" by other members of my family who had really moved on. I am an only child too which doesn't help.

It's like the older I get the more I need her, the more questions I have about be a woman, an adult, etc.

I see lots of people on here are talking about exercise... I never did that but I am now and it's helping me process all kinds of stuff. Check out the couch25K community on here ( I like the UK version, they are SUCH a lovely community) it will give you 9 weeks of some sort of routine and I NEVER thought I would ever be able to run more than about a block. At the end of 9 weeks, you may really see a change mentally as well as physically, and have a great crew of c25k supporters!)

[Hidden]

Hey, I'm sorry for your loss but you will meet again. I'll be your friend, as I'm sure most everybody on here will be. Just about the friendliest online community. I think its because we all understand each other. If you need anything or want to talk. Just message