Tired

[Lifesearching]

I might just be venting, but just getting so tired of peoples actions around me. When I lost everything 4 yrs ago, I began to rebuild my life from the ground up. I lost so many friends it’s not even funny and had to lean only on God for awhile.

Now that my life is gaining more stability again and positivity, old relationships are coming back around and I want to be happy but I’m literally annoyed. To me it’s like wow so you were ok leaving me in the dust, but is there something you want fro me now that I have more useful connections to you? Am I an opportunity or a resource now?

My therapist was a joke too no disrespect but she treated me so disrespectfully that now that’s she gone my life is more peaceful than before. Praying and talking here gets me more results.

I’ve been thru so much that I’ve never talked about with people I know, but they give me side eye because they believe deep in their heart that my blessings appeared overnight and they are also entitled to them. Like if my man is good to me, oh wait, he’s my friends bf too lol like my bf is also theirs lol. It makes me so mad I want to laugh sometimes. And these mfkrs expect me to be good to them even after they pull a fast one thinking I don’t notice!

I get that God asks us to be good to those who hate us and slow to anger, but my flesh feels otherwise

and if anyone has time to read this does anyone experience this, like other females being entitled to ur man also? Not in super obvious ways, but say he gets me water to something nice. Then they expect him to get it for them also? And is he welcoming they behavior by being nice to them too?

[casablancalover14]

Hello, it sounds as if you have gone through a lot. When you were down and out, your friends deserted you, but now you are doing better, they want to be nice to you. That is messed up, in my opinion. I would be leary of them now, and let their actions show their real self. We are here to listen, anytime. 😇😇🤩🤩

[Lifesearching in reply to casablancalover14]

Yes omg! And I get it I know the world doesn’t revolve around me at all, just what I notice and I’m not just making it up in my head. I just don’t even know sometimes who is being nice because they just think I have something they could get later on. Thank you for taking time to read and respond 🙏🏽😔so I just had this friend pop up on me after years of no contact (after that period in my life everything fell apart). She introduced me to her side hustle and ghosted me after the meeting. Months later, I reached a milestone in my own life and she only then reached out again. Crazy but true story!!

And thank u for validating I’ve been thru a lot, my life is more stable now personally, but trusting new people I have to work with or see often is a process in itself now with its own challenges. Sometimes it’s too much to put into words.

[casablancalover14 in reply to Lifesearching]

There are many people that come and go in our lives. Just trust your gut feeling about these so called friends, and you'll make the right decisions for yourself. Thanks for listening to my ramblings this morning. Have a super day!🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩

[Mentalhealthmatter]

I definitely understand jealous females…all you have to do is show up and they hate you. it’s because the darkness in them doesn’t like the light you have inside you. Most females believe that being hyper independent and rude is the only way to get a man. But they actually end up alone because of how cruel they are to others and end up having only their ego left. It takes kindness, forgiveness (when it’s safe to do so) and respect for others to be loved as well.

[Lifesearching in reply to Mentalhealthmatter]

I hope I don’t sound conceited! I have real life examples! I just can’t stand it for example say I’m on a group date, and I’m completely focused on my own man, but then the other girl of the group starts complimenting my man too and getting close to him and I literally just want to barf. And no disrespect but her husband is a cool dude! Nice, hard working family man, yet (and it’s the same female I have to deal with from time to time) she just finds ways to get close to MINE. It’s unbelievable! Like I’m trying so hard to show I’m on her side. She will pretend to be nice but the next moment she’s like standing so close to my bf and I’m like wtf weirdo you know I see u right??

And to be honest, I love my bf but don’t even know if he is as intuitive as me to see this kind of nonsense. He comes from a pretty stable background unlike mine so he’s a lot more open and trusting. My hope is he’s not welcoming this behavior by him being too nice. But not me I can see thru ppls intentions cuz I’ve been thru the ringer. But yeah I’m still trying to just trust God it’s hard sometimes😔💙on that note I used to be that super independent girl who “didn’t need anyone”! I know what you mean. But it’s just not fun to be around ur right omg

[Mentalhealthmatter in reply to Lifesearching]

I would look into the reasons why she’s so concerned about what you’re getting from your husband or men in general. Many jealous females won’t admit that they can be wrong. They care more about ruining that other person’s life aka you…. She has demons working in her so be wary of this “guy friend” of yours because she probably agreed to something with him to ruin the relationship you have.

[Mentalhealthmatter in reply to Mentalhealthmatter]

I’m warning you… these people don’t love you… they wanna see you fail and damn near die…. Let this friend go

[Lifesearching in reply to Mentalhealthmatter]

Girl, yes this confirms my intuition this whole time. I have days where I’m like ok maybe she does want to be friends, but then she plays in my face and I’m right back to being like no this girl doesn’t not want me around at all

[Mentalhealthmatter in reply to Lifesearching]

Best of luck to you in this horrible situation… I guarantee this friend of yours is with that girl

[Mentalhealthmatter in reply to Mentalhealthmatter]

this friend is put in your life for harm… he’s not going to give you what you want… he knows what you crave from people and he is using you for his own selfish excuses and ego…. Let that man go!!!

[Lifesearching in reply to Mentalhealthmatter]

It’s just freaking weird, she has he own whole husband, family, life, and she is A LOT prettier than me!! So she has more than me even more so I’m like bruh mind your business!

[Mentalhealthmatter in reply to Lifesearching]

this person clearly has ego problems that they need to resolve with their own trauma and it’s not a reflection of you at all!!!! Keep the relationship with your husband because these friends are TERRIBLE and they wanna see you HURT

[Lifesearching in reply to Mentalhealthmatter]

I forgot to add this girl is the wife of my bfs best friend…so the three had a friendship long before I came into my bfs life…but it looks like she spent years eating up not only her husbands but my bfs attention as well. Now that he finally has a girl (me) she is not happy about it and it makes me sick

idk how to even bring up to my bf that she is just an attention seeker without looking jealous

[Mentalhealthmatter in reply to Lifesearching]

She sees you as a threat does not see you as a friend. I would be open and honest with your boyfriend about how she is towards you and let your boyfriend know about this guy reaching out to you. I don’t trust anyone.

[Lifesearching in reply to Mentalhealthmatter]

I literally can’t tell with other females who want to be friends or get close. I can’t tell if they’re just trying to get close to my man or the connections/network I have built over the past few years. Some play in my face so it’s easy to tell if they don’t like me from the jump, but others are like SUPER EXTRA nice so I’m just trying to give the benefit of the doubt but be cautious it’s very difficult to tell right now even for female friends I’ve known for years.

I think I’ve been thru enough to be aware that some ppl act super nice bcuz they wanna take from you or get what they want in a sneaky way. And not that I even have a lot to take! However I did rebuild my life from literally losing it all, and now that I have some stability again I’m just very careful who wants to come around

and to be honest for that matter my bf is also under my watch too! I’m also not sure if he’d be the type who would show interest in my girl friends or connections…u know, those types of guys who pretend to like u but would ride on ur opportunities or hook up with ur friends if given the chance? Lol