feeling loneliness

[Metal13]

Hello everyone. I am feeling extremely lonely today. I am trying to work on my marriage but at the moment we don’t seem to be talking much. I never used to be lonely. Or at least I got out of feeling that way. I used to think people who got lonely were pathetic. But I realize that was probably my own buried loneliness that caused me to feel that way. I have been really struggling to get my anxiety and depression under control and I feel like I got the anxiety to a managed state but I am so depressed. I listen to sad music just so I feel like someone feels the same way I do. Anyway just thought I would share this today instead of journaling. I’ll probably do that too.

Thanks for listening

[Agora1]

Dearest Metal13, unless we fix the reason for our loneliness, sadness and depression

will settle in. Listening to sad music only exacerbates the feeling in being alone both

mentally and physically.

It's always best to use positivity and affirmations in feeling whole again.

I'm happy that you turn to us when feeling this way because you certainly are

not alone by any means.

You are going through a lot right now in your marriage. We are here to

listen to your concerns. We do care xx

[litethatnevergoesout]

agora is totally correct and I understand the relatable feelings sad music will provide when feeling sad but it’s reinforcing being sad and won’t help you at all with your ability to work on your marriage either. stay away from the sad music. turn it off put it away and find something like positive affirmations to listen to no matter how dorky it may seem.

[BrainIsFull]

Loneliness can be so painful. I'm sorry you are experiencing it.

Reaching out here is an excellent idea. It can help to know that others are here, reading your words. And then to maybe get a reply. For me, it's a little connection that can help me feel a little less lonely.

It's interesting how harshly we judge loneliness. When I feel lonely I often DO feel pathetic like you said. Which in turn makes me feel way worse. I try to remember not to judge myself for feeling lonely (or any other feelings). Feelings just ARE. They're not good or bad.

[Metal13 in reply to BrainIsFull]

Thank you, it does help to post here. There are so many people that feel like this and it’s comforting to not be alone.

[Rizo1]

Hu Metal. I feel lonely too at times, even when I'm in company. I find people are very welcoming here. Don't judge us for how we feel. I find listening to sad music makes me feel worse aswell. Can you put on some of your favourite songs from a band you love? I find that helps me. It distracts me. I hope you'll make some connections here. You're not alone in your feelings .

[Metal13 in reply to Rizo1]

Thanks Rizo1. People here are very welcoming. Since I have started posting I get replies and it makes me feel better. I can try my favorite songs or bands but it seems that I find something in almost any song that reminds me I’m lonely and depressed. But I mostly listen to depressing music I guess. Reading other post on here and posting myself seems to help more than anything at the moment. So, thanks!

[Isolated_Dog_Mom72]

Hi Metal! I'm feeling alone too,..well I am totally alone except for my dog. It's a nice sunny day but I'm hiding under my covers anyway. You're not alone.

[Metal13 in reply to Isolated_Dog_Mom72]

Thank you, it’s sunny here also and I am on my couch doing laundry. It’s good you have your dog. I used to have cats but they passed away and I was allergic so I haven’t gotten any new ones. I do miss them though.