My dogged independence will be my downfall

[secrets22]

I refuse to ask anyone to lend me a hand and that is my downfall ,and so I struggle on to do things on my own, and this was non more so apparent than this morning.

I have a huge chest freezer which is now surplice to requirements, and having defrosted it i needed to move it from my laundry room to an inner hallway, bearing in mind it is a tight manoeuvre and i needed to lift it up on end and gradually walk it to the hallway ready to be collected.

I managed to lift it, but there was no wriggle room for me to get it stood on end, and consequently I got it jammed in the doorway and cant move it at all, primarily because i suddenly had a funny turn and felt really unwell, bearing in mind I have a heart condition that I was born with , I felt giddy and really unwell and actually thought i was going pop my Cloggs. I made my way to an armchair and sat for at least 2 hours devoid of all sensibilities, and its only right now that the feeling of impending gloom has begun to lift.

The only thing i have to concern myself with is that I now have a freezer jammed between a door and no way of being able access the laundry room, and much to my annoyance i must bite the bullet and ask for help, certainly not today, but hopefully tomorrow, and of course living alone doesn't help. I have often thought of taking in a lodger, but i know in reality it wouldn't work.

[Sunrisetabby]

Maybe you learned your lesson and can now ask for help? It sounds like you needed it. I also struggle asking for help, but for oh so many things maybe everything, it is helpful to have a friend or just another warm body giving you physical or mental support. Best wishes!

[hypercat54]

I too struggle mightily with asking for help too. Still do though I need it more than ever these days. I don't have any answers.

Good luck.

[Arymretep]

I hope you are feeling ok now, I can’t really say anything as I’m the same, I hate to ask someone for help, yet I’m the first in line to help others when I can, it’s weird.

I have my hubby, but he’s not been well the last few weeks and as I cant drive ive had to rely on family members to take me back and fore to the hospital about 30mins drive, which they all offered to do, but I just hated having to ask anybody , one day I took a taxi by myself to visit him, and was promptly told off, so people do care , it’s just us it seems.

[secrets22 in reply to Arymretep]

thankyou, yes i'm ok now ,but asking for favours is hard for me to do. I do hope your husband is feeling a bit better though. 😇

[Arymretep in reply to secrets22]

Thank you, he’s been diagnosed with kidney disease so he has to be very careful with his diet, salt etc which is a bit of a nightmare as it seems to be in most foods we buy. I suppose as we get older and we need more help we have to swallow our pride 👍

[Audiomarc1]

Hi Secrets22. You shouldn't feel bad about asking for help. There are times when we all need a hand in life and you certainly don't want to hurt yourself or God forbid get a sudden health attack and not be able to call for help. It's a scary situation being alone but wanting to be independent without asking for help. Please reconsider getting the help you deserve and for that matter we all deserve from time to time. Is your freezer still stuck or have you gotten it moved into place. If not don't you dare hurt yourself. Get the help you need. Let me know how it goes please. Your friend Audiomarc1 👍🙏👍

[secrets22 in reply to Audiomarc1]

hey audiomarc, and thankyou. Yes a friend called in and he got the freezer back enough for me to get in the room, but now have to devise a plan to actually move the freezer in another room, trouble is I get a bit panicky when things don't go to plan, and i now feel back to normal ,or as normal as I ever will be. cheers Roddy.

[Audiomarc1 in reply to secrets22]

Hi Roddy. Glad to know you are feeling better. You know when I get panicky, my anxiety goes through the roof. If the anxiety remains unchecked, it causes a rise in my depression. Then the OCD sets in, well you get the point. The moral of my story is to avoid panicking. Ha ha, easier said than done, wouldn't you agree. Here's to staying calm and not panicking. Cheers and stay safe, happy and healthy. 🙏👍🙏

[secrets22 in reply to Audiomarc1]

hey audiomarc....its so difficult not to panic though when under stress ,and as you say easier said than done. Enjoy your day.

[secrets22]

oh what a good idea Mandy, luckily Steve came to my rescue and i at least can get into my laundry room now, but we might have to remove a wall cupboard to get the freezer out. But do take things steady, but i know you are like me for getting on top of things.😢xx

[secrets22]

Cripes Mandy, thats actually a useful bit of kit for hauling stuff around, very useful indeed.x

[secrets22]

WOW just wow x.

[Dolphin14]

Secrets

Oh no! Are you feeling ok right now? I'm concerned about the symptoms you were having

We all want to think we can do everything alone. It's a bummer that thing is stuck.

Silver lining.... no laundry??

Please take care and get the help you need.

🐬

[secrets22 in reply to Dolphin14]

thankyou Dolphin14....i am feeling much better now, but i admit i was scared for a while.

[Dolphin14 in reply to secrets22]

I'm so glad you are feeling better. Remember, as much as we think we are not sprung chickens anymore or should I put the sad face

[secrets22]

Where there's a will there is family........😁