Please tell me life will get better

[secrets22]

Please tell me life will improve, and i do have several friends who have struggled through similar times to me.

Doubt i will ever be like i used to be,essential things i should be doing such as office work i am now tending to leave, i do shopping,and dont unpack it for a couple of days & slop around in the same clothes,hang washing out and leave that for days on end,leave ironing till i can barely get in the laundry room,avoid dusting and vacuuming,leave dishes in the sink all day,and this is unheard for someone like me who always was ultra busy and obsessively house proud and would never leave a chore till tomorrow,and worst of all i have lost my sense of fun and humour.

Tell me it will get better.

[Hidden]

I don't know what specifically is going on but it will get better!! I know that it might seem hard but please don't beat yourself up. Be kind to yourself!! You are going through something and you need to be patient with yourself. Maybe for your house you can do one task at a time. Unpack your items you got from shopping one day, do dishes the next. For work, try to stick it out. Don't leave unless it truly makes you unhappy!! Slowly try to get back into your routine, even if it does take quite a bit of time. Be patient with yourself and whatever your going through. You'll make it! I believe in you and I am proud of you!!!

[secrets22 in reply to Hidden]

very kind thank you.

[Hidden in reply to secrets22]

No problem! Hope everything is figured out!!

[Hidden]

No you won't go back to how you were before David died and all the other nasty things you have had happen to you as life doesn't work like that.

Perhaps your best days are ahead of you yet which is what I am hoping for for myself.

How are you and the dogs bearing up?

[secrets22 in reply to Hidden]

well,nothing is easy my friend,and my wee friends with fur on are very subdued.x

[Hidden in reply to secrets22]

They will be subdued and they are missing their mate Eddie same as you are.

Point is when things like David dying happen it puts things into perspective and makes you realise how very little in life is either urgent or important such as being houseproud and how they are things you can let go of.

This morning Baby was terrified by the thunder here in Cardiff!

She is looking forward to her leftovers on Saturday from Viva Brazil as we are having lunch out there and a pub crawl as well.

She sends you all her love and condolences on the loss of Eddie.

[Isinatra]

Once your arm is fully healed, that will be a piece of the puzzle solved. Can you hire someone to help you with the chores. Ironing, laundry, housekeeping. Use paper plates. I dare not suggest using plastic cutlery. Oops! I just did. Your life has changed, but in time you will build a new life. It may not be exactly the same as the past, but it could be just as good. How is your arm doing?

[secrets22 in reply to Isinatra]

thanks so much...to be honest my arm is still extremely painful..x

[Arymretep]

Life will never be the same but who knows what’s ahead for any of us , life is a journey, you have been through so much lately, you deserve the best , take care

Serenity prayer

[secrets22 in reply to Arymretep]

many thanks friend.

[Lefty_Epee]

It will get better. I do think you're right about never being the same person, but that's not a bad thing. I'm dealing with the same issue of wondering if I'll ever feel like I used to. Here's what I've found and I hope it will run true with you and restore some faith in you. We may be unable to do certain things some days like bathe, cleanup, do work. But on others, we can do things we never could do before, or worked with unparalleled efficiency. We are capable of feeling sadness beyond description; an ever constricting vine on our mind, heart, and spirit. But as a result of this, we can experience happiness that is far greater than we ever could have before. It's not much, but this solace helps me get through the darker times. Hope this helps, praying for your healing.

[secrets22 in reply to Lefty_Epee]

wonderful words and i thank you.