Feel Like Things Will Never Get Better For Me.

[bxgirlmom]

I have posted about this before, I’ve been a stay at home mom for the last few months while looking to change my career. I found a new job and I start next week. But for the last 3 weeks I have been home with my kids 24/7. They start school this upcoming Tuesday, but for the last two days I have just felt so burnt out. Like almost to the point of tears. My husband has willful blindness and pretends like he doesn’t see me suffering. I have them playing in their room right now because I couldn’t handle anymore. The constant calling me, the endless requests for snacks, I was on the phone with my job earlier and I had to run into the bathroom just to complete the call. I love my kids they are my everything. At the end of the day, they’re just being kids. I just never imagined I would be in a marriage where I always have to beg for support. I just needed to vent, I am truly at a loss right now.

[Midori]

Only a mother would understand this. Perhaps you have been a little too accommodating to Hubby and Kiddoes.

SAHM is a Hard Job on it's own, especially if nobody helps.

I would suggest a few House rules; such as If you drop it, you pick it up, not wait for someone else to do it. If you get something out, put it back after use. If you make a mess, Clean it up. If you use the last of anything leave a note to say you need more. Make (and Change) Your own beds. If you cook, wash up after yourself, because there isn't a Housework Fairy! Sort your own laundry. Set your own clothes out for school.

When you start back to work, you are going to need them all to step up. Especially your Husband. He should be setting an example, kids take their cues on behaviour from both parents.

Hope this helps a little.

Cheers, Midori

[bxgirlmom in reply to Midori]

Thank you Midori, you always give the best advice. xo

[catsrock]

I'm so sorry. I was a stay-at-home mom for several years when my daughters were little and it was the hardest job I've ever had. I'm not surprised you feel burnt out. Just an idea, but would writing down what you need from your husband help? I know some people need the visual of a list of how to help or they just don't get it - speaking from experience with my husband!

[bxgirlmom in reply to catsrock]

Now suddenly he apologizes and says when I start work next week I can go on care.com and hire someone to come twice a week to help me in the house and with the kids. It just feels so manipulative.

[catsrock in reply to bxgirlmom]

I'm sorry - that's hard

[bxgirlmom]

Hey ! Thank you for your advice ! Yes I just purchased a white board so I can delegate the weekly chores/assignments for HIM AND the kids. He made a hurtful comment this morning saying “How come I never see you cleaning the walls?” and the tears just instantly started flowing. My house is so clean guys. I have had nothing but time during these last months off to clean and organize. It’s just hurtful. Like it will never be enough.