workplace bully

[DMM1188]

this has been a long experience but bear with me. One of my supervisors at work has been bullying me off and on for about a year now. She started with underhand remarks like “ come see me if you need help.. I’m sure you will” and then a few months later for one week straight she was MERCILESS, saying I had no personality and couldn’t run my classroom, ripping my iep that I wrote to shreds (metaphorically,by covering it in red ink) . I even told her my mom had had a stroke and she still was mean to me. I actually had to go to the director of our program about it, and it stopped for a while. While now she’s starting up again. She comes into my room for observations( I’m a special Ed teacher) with a scowl or grimace on her face and nitpicks everything in front of the kids. Last Friday she snuck in the back door( another thing she does that pisses me off) !!walked around the room glared at the kids (who were behaving!) and the staff and wordlessly walked out the front door. Then yesterday she had a meeting for the teachers where she told us everything we were doing wrong - keep in mind this woman has never taught special Ed a day in her life!!! I’m really struggling and frustrated with her and afraid that someday im going to snap at her and get in trouble.

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She sounds like a very unhappy person. I’d go back to the director again if you think that helped. Try to engage as little as possible. She probably feeds on your frustrations. As hard as it is, try not to snap at her as that’s what she’s hoping for I’d assume. You can’t change her but you can change the way you let her affect you. If all else fails, kill her with kindness … that’ll stop her in her tracks and throw off her attitude for a bit. Sorry you have to deal with that at work. It’s frustrating I know.

[Turnipgirl]

Years ago I got bullied at a job and I put up with it for a long time until I left the job when an incident happened and I had had enough and had handed in my 4 weeks notice and had followed through and left there for good!

The place was rotten to the core and those managers were just a symptom of that and it has carried on being rotten to the core as well in how its run as places like that don't change!

[DMM1188 in reply to Turnipgirl]

I know.. and I know this person has driven other teachers out as well. My boss is leaving in July and she really wants his job. I know at least half of thè staff would leave if that happens

[Turnipgirl in reply to DMM1188]

At that company they had really really had it out for one girl there who had ended up going sick with stress and was off for ages and they went and sacked her for having been off sick for ages!

They had pulled a malicious trick on myself when they claimed there was a temporary job for me in another department and no there wasn't they had made it up and I had become ever so upset over it!

One of my friends said to me when they promise things get them to put them in writing which was good advice that I listened to sane as when I got told that next time someone gets you upset walk out of the room which I listened to and took on board as well!

Those managers shouldn't have said there was a temporary job when no there wasn't!

Point is don't play with people's lives!

[blackcat64013]

Thank you for your post.I too am a victim/survivor of workplace bullying and harassment. It's definitely a breach of workplace safety, mental instead of physical.

You shouldn't ignore it otherwise your health and wellbeing is at risk.

Check what the company policy says about making a formal complaint.

The next tip is to report it to the manager of you both.

Request a meeting. Document this meeting yourself or bring along a support person.

Prior to the meeting, cast your mind back to all the stuff that's been going on. You might not know exact dates but if you can think to link back to events you will have a rough idea. Put together a list on your home computer to allow for easy editing. Take a copy for the person you are meeting as well as one for yourself.

Lastly research "organisational psychopath" and you will see the behaviour and why this person has issues.

DOCUMENT EVERYTHING. Use the 6Ws approach (who what when where why how)

REPORT CONCERNS TO DOCTOR to take a baseline measure of your health in case the stress sends blood pressure up or you get some other physical symptoms.

This seems a lot of work but so worth it if push comes to shove.

I hope next week will be better for you🙏

[DMM1188 in reply to blackcat64013]

Thank you that’s very helpful.. I never thought of that before. It’s not my first time being bullied or even being bullied at work but first time being bullied by a superior.