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My mother

Star990
Star990

I think my mother has given up on me. And I don’t blame her. She it herself “I don’t know what to do with you anymore, I’m done.” Last night she came in to my room and saw me crying asking if I had another headache but I just told her I’m fine but she pressured me to talk. I just told her I’m tired of not being to sleep every night and that the pills my doctor prescribed me only works but I told her I didn’t want to take them anymore. Her reply was blunt, “just drink warm milk,” and left the room.

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Hidden
Hidden

My mom has said that to me too. Sometimes parents get frustrated and say things in the heat of the moment. They are human. Give your mom some space and time.

Star990
Star990 in reply to Hidden

I have been actually. I don’t bother her when I have trouble breathing or go to her when I want to cry. It’s hard but I know she works harder and I do my best to let her get the rest she needs.

Hidden
Hidden

My mother has said that to me SO MANY TIMES. I am not exaggerating. She probably doesn’t mean a word of it. She’s just tired of seeing you down. That’s how my mama is. You & her will be okay, dear. Don’t get yourself worked up over it. I usually just apologize & thank mine for everything she does for me. Maybe make her something to eat. That might make her feel better. <3

Star990
Star990 in reply to Hidden

Thank you and yes it’s lately what I’ve been doing so far. Since she would take me to the clinic a lot of times I wash dishes and tell her to get some rest. Sometimes when I’m in distressed I don’t bother her at all, it’s hard but I guess I’ll get there.

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Star990

Oh, I know what you mean exactly. My mama likes to tell me to pick myself up & get over it! They mean well. They just don’t like seeing us down. I’m glad you’re there to show her you appreciate her. That’s usually all it takes for my mama to come around & apologize for saying tough love stuff to me! Good luck & stay strong! <3

I wish I could take care of you for a week.

I could show your mother how it’s done.

I’ve been sick myself, but have been helping people in my life with chronic disabilities since 2002.

I’m very patient. That’s an advantage to me and the 2 people I’ve cared for. I’ve had my moments, but they’ve been few & far between.

It also helps that I live with chronic pain.

Star990
Star990 in reply to Lakewolf

That’s very considerate of you, thank you. Good to know there are people like you in this world.

Lakewolf
Lakewolf in reply to Star990

I like to think that it isn’t that I’m so great.

Rather, it’s a measure of how loony people have gotten that I stand out just by acting normal.

I am a disappointment to my father he told me that I was a mistake and that he should have made my mom get an abortion. for a while it hurt me then I met my fiancé and she showed me that there are good things in life. Its hard living without parental approval but it gets easier once you start making progress in your life

Star990
Star990 in reply to Ryanburns

Very touching. I’m glad to hear you found someone who showed you the way, amazing.

Lakewolf
Lakewolf in reply to Ryanburns

What he said to you is inexcusable. Did he ever apologise?

I am a mum of a 24 yr old girl. Shes def inherited some sort of mental health issue. Anyway my point is that its poss yr mum is exhausted. U might not believe it but u r probably on her mind all day..... does she work ? Do u have siblings ?

Its lovely u can talk to your mum and a nice cuppa is always lovely. Remember she has feelings too and communication involves listening.

Love and peace

Shadow

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Parents can suck sometimes. I most certainly don't mean to minimize your hurt feelings AT ALL, but at least she wants to check on you, talk with you.... I've had therapists tell me I can not expect certain motherly qualities from my mom. Sure I can!! I've just had to find those motherly qualities in women who aren't my (biological) mother. That's just my opinion. And my strategy. It's worked surprisingly well!

Star990
Star990 in reply to Hidden

That’s a good strategy somehow i kind of feel like it’s more helpful. Thank so much.

Sorry to hear that you are not feeling well. It is hard when there doesn't seem to be an easy cure. A good thing is that she wanted to talk to you and find out what was going on. Your mother probably gets frustrated when she doesn't have a solution to your problem. I hope that you can find a remedy for your health .

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