Overthinking

[sumeetthakur1981]

I have been under treatment for anxiety and sleep related issues since 2016You all will probably laugh at my current reason for a depressed mood and overthinking but it seems like I have an open wound that is hurting me continuously

I am from India

I am follower of a political party and it's social media activist

Our party is not doing very well since long, every time the party faces a defeat I go into a sad mood and it remains like that for long time,

I do not gain any financial benefits in return for working for the party but I take it as a personal defeat,why is that I don't know,it is maybe because since my grandparents from both sides have been supporters of this party too

I know that my efforts alone things are not going to change but the sad mood and the loop of thinking hammer my mind again and again

Why can't I let it go,I don't know

I do know for sure that I get anxiety easily, professionally too my life is not very good,I have been rejected promotion twice for my juniors

I know I need to focus on my health,my children

But Why is it not happening,I don't know

Earlier too I went through this feeling and it took a lot of time to get over it

This time something has changed,instead of being sad for one thing I have developed an ability to worry about multiple things at a time,like being sad for the party,feeling aweful for being rejected promotion

I am sorry again if this seems trivial for you but for me it is quite a serious matter,any help how to process these feelings is much appreciated

[Vonus5591]

You've got big goals and sometimes takes us time to get some level of success. All I can say is never give up, someone somewhere is helped by what you do. Intelligently set yourself up for next task and get people to help you. You will achieve something someday keep going

[DieselDad]

Your issues aren't trivial at all, we don't get to choose what situations are going to trigger us. At least I can't, if anyone knows how then please share your secret.

For me when multiple issues are attacking me it seems like it's because they're all intertwined somehow and I feel like when 1 minor defeat in one of them feels so overwhelming and unrecoverable that I feel like giving up on trying to fix all of them and do nothing. I've had to consider it a success just to taking a shower so that I've done 1 thing constructive that day. I have to conscious pay attention to the 1 small victory instead of the 10k things left to do. Those other things will wait and still be there waiting patiently for me when it's time to do 1 small thing for them.

You're not alone and you got this!! 😊

[Doodle_Dad]

I get the same thing when my brain won’t turn off. When I am not in a good place I overthink everything too. The trouble is that when we’re not in a good place our thinking isn’t necessarily logical and the thoughts we can’t let go of can be lies we are telling ourselves. That’s how it goes for me anyway. I wish there was a literal switch somewhere on my body where I could disconnect any awareness of my brain and let it coast on autopilot sometimes.

I hope you have good reasons to continue even if you are being passed over for promotion. We are not our jobs. We are so much more than that, yet it is easy to mistakenly attach our identity to our job. It sounds like you have a life outside of your job that could bring you fulfillment. Maybe it can be enough.

You’re not alone