Why.....

[mizzou7016]

Although I 150% do not do my job....(I am a corrections officer going on 26 years)...in search of praise.....why do i care so much about what someone else's opinion of me is?? I want people to understand that I will do whatever it takes to make sure everyone i work with that day goes home...my friend said it best about public safety professionals...we are ordinary people who at times....are asked and expected to do extraordinary things

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You do an important job and difficult one. You know you are needed and you deserve much gratefulness

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For me when things came to work, I too got very frustrated when I would hear certain things said about me or treated me a certain way compared to others. I used to put in 14 hours a day and traveled weekly. The one thing about this group and community is we are SO in tune with our emotions that of course we are going to feel badly if minced words are spoken.

Putting your life's work into something....26 years.....is a lot and you are a seasoned veteran at this point. One would think that would make you feel confidence and not a care in the world if someone else was off putting. But you do care and that is OK! I cared so much because I worked so hard and I know I helped so many people along the way. It is a shame when one or two toxic people in a working environment can wreck an entire team. My husband is the guy that can pretty much brush everything off. However, when it comes to his emotional intelligence, he lacked quite a bit until married for awhile. We both have different therapists and his therapist's mind was blown that he had such little dating experience at age 45. Once he started seeing her, he was able to interpret me, my actions, my values, my thoughts SO MUCH BETTER and to support his step kids.

When it comes to the work place....there is no way to get that direct type of support. I used to joke that Human Resource departments were just there to cover everybody's butt. Turns out in some of the places I worked, that was the goal. Keep the highest at the food chain protected for shareholders. Now in other places I worked, it was self service HR. This meant employees duked it out when there were issues. Both terrible ways to manage and engage a workforce. Plenty of places have it right, I'm not down playing the key role HR plays.

I say stand tall and be proud. You've done selfless work for 26 years and I cannot even imagine the number of people you have helped over that time. It is that basic but so beautiful when you really think about it. I would say you are an outstanding person with the added bonus of having empathy!

[mizzou7016]

I am totally committed to doing my job...I've been with the department for 26 years.....what i said is that i don't do the job for praise and admiration. An example of this is 3 weeks ago tomorrow I was physically assaulted responding to a situation where a coworker was brutally attacked by an offender.....I didn't respond to get called a hero which some of my other coworkers called me.....I responded because I saw a coworker get attacked and i was going to do whatever it took to stop the attack.....I responded because that's what my 26 years on the job has taught me to do....what i meant is why do i put so much concern in to what other people think about me professionally....I only did what i hope anyone else in that situation would do.....make sure everyone on my team goes home no worse for wear

[Agora1 in reply to mizzou7016]

mizzou, I respect you and I thank you for who you are. A price could never be

put on your courage and strength. I learned this when I worked with the

Fire Department and saw what it took for these men (like you) run towards danger

when everyone is running out. Your position even more dangerous as you are

in a locked unit with dangerous people. My heart goes out to you. May you continue

to be safe and protected by others who care as you do. xx

[Juju01_ in reply to mizzou7016]

First, congratulations on your 26 years of Dedicated work. Your career is, to me, extremely difficult and dangerous. Praise God you did what was necessary without even a hesitation! I once had a nursing career and often felt hurt when coworkers "talked crap" about me & to me. I often cried. I knew my job and did it Damn good. I cared what others thought of me but Not Anymore! People will forever gossip, lie, make up things, I say who cares. So long as I perform my job well I don't care what others think or say. No more hurting, crying, losing sleep over what others think. I know I'm a good person and I pray for them. Good luck friend. Your are An Awesome peace officer (corrections)Stay A Blessing and God Bless You ❣️

[Mumbutterfly]

It hurts because you care about other people and it hurts when people misunderstand your motives. Being a a highly sensitive person is what makes you good at what you do. The downside of that is also caring about other’s viewpoint of you. It’s a package deal with pros and cons. The trick is to try to accept the hard parts and not continue to focus on them but to redirect your thoughts towards the good things. Knowing what to do doesn’t make it easy to do it. I’m still working on it myself.

[mizzou7016 in reply to Mumbutterfly]

it is a never ending battle for me. Whatever I do can be scrutinized. I am struggling with why some people's mere words break my spirits...I try very hard to not let the opinions of others change me...but sometimes i just can't let it go.....it's my struggle with acceptance