why me?

[g2010]

Hi i am new here.

i have been suffering from depression for about a year now, it is very complicated, my friends do not understand it at all, they make remarks such as ' just try and be happy, its actually easy" but they dont understand that it is not a choice, i would do anything not to feel like this. what should i do? sometimes when people make those types of remarks i just feel like giving them a good punch because i think i have gotten to that time where it is not a joke anymore

[kenster1]

hi sorry to hear of your suffering friends and family find it difficult understanding depression/anxiety if they've never dealt with it before.maybe you could be a good educator to them and maybe they could understand how your feeling.dont lash out as that is different territory altogether and would land you in trouble.

[Mary-intussuception]

Hi

Sorry you've been suffering like this and for so long - and without support from friends. I wonder if they realise how hurtful and unhelpful such comments are?

You say it's complicated - anything you'd like to talk about on here?

[Kayleexoxochurch]

It’s REALLY hard to find friends that will at least try to understand and support you. That is part of the reason I joined this community because I’m hoping to find someone that actually gets it. Good luck!

[hypercat54]

Hi there is no reason why your friends should necessarily understand is there? They are giving you the only responses they can. It's best not to try and talk to them much about it if this is their reaction. Talk about it to those who can understand is my advice. x

[snow_queen]

I didn't understand either, until it happened to me. I remember being maybe 7 years old and wondering how on earth anyone could ever want to take their own life - well now I know. when we're in the middle of something it's hard to see how someone else wouldn't understand it, and its equally hard for the people on the outside to see in. I agree with hypercat - talk to people who do understand, like in this group, and maybe avoid that topic with your friends who don't, or only mention it when there's something specific they can help you with? my experience is that real friends do want to help, but when they don't understand the situation they usually won't know what to do unless you explicitly say it. good luck

[LovelySnow]

Hi g2010. I agree with a lot of what the others have said already. It can be so hard for others to understand. I feel your frustration! I actually started to tell people I had, "health issues." I didn't even say, "mental health" issues because I felt like they wouldn't get it or would think something really negative.

But I've found some pretty compassionate people on here. I hope you get the support you need. 🌸