Why?

[FindingTree]

Why do we feel so afraid to tell our significant others how we really feel in situations. I’ve been dealing with trying to express my real feeling about things that happen in my relationship but I keep quiet because I was afraid of how he might feel or react. Now that I want to speak up my stomach is in knots, my legs are shacking and I’m basically still afraid. Why?

[Hidden]

Gees I don't think you should be so scared to talk to them...isn't that what a relationship is about..communication...if you don't have that...what's the point...they may be able to be your rock...just be honest with them...that's all...one can't ridicule for how you feel...

I wish you all the best...

Dump trucks of love, peace, light, joy n hugs for you!!

[FindingTree in reply to Hidden]

I guess my fear is not only how he would react but also ending up on my own for being overly expressive.

[Hidden in reply to FindingTree]

The what if's haven't happened so don't think about that...and really communicating with your partner is what it's all about...love doesn't leave just because you may not be in a happy place at the time...I would think they would be happy to be of help to you...that's what my hubby and I have done for the past 39 years...makes for a great relationship being open and honest...all the best to you...

Dump trucks of love, peace, light, joy n hugs for you!!!

[WILDFIREequestrian]

I fear talking about my personal feelings sometimes as I fear I may be stressing the other person out and they eventually will get fed up with me. I fear if I tell someone something that im going through they automatically think that im looking for attention.

[FindingTree in reply to WILDFIREequestrian]

I definitely fear talking about my personal feelings with anyone because when I was younger and tried to express myself to certain family members they called me emotional and a cry baby. This made me keep everything inside.

[Stilltrying_]

It is a difficult tightrope to tread. I have found that talking openly about my feelings in a non therapeutic setting has led to rejection; though I just about stopped this by starting to pretend that I'm ok and just in time. I honestly think I would have lost several friendships if I didn't pretend that I feel ok.

It's lonely but I understand that others just don't want to hear how we are feeling. It is safe to express on here , no judgment' but i would be lying if I said it was safe to say in general. Sometimes "loved ones" or "friends" will just find it hard to handle and will disappear, particularly if it is over a prolonged amount of time or if the feelings we have don't "make sense" to them.

gemma