I have been hoping to sell up and move to a totally new area for a new beginning, but i get thwarted at every turn.
I live in a huge old Victorian house and removed my house from the market due to unexpected repairs needing to be done.
First off a huge party wall collapsed and the shared cost of repair is enormous, the first quote was £85,000,the second quote is £36,000,of which we've accepted. And then 4 bay roofs have to be reroofed, but whilst having that done the heavy balustrading on one fell to the ground, and that is now being done, but then they found other things were needing to be done.
This house is like it has tentacles which are wrapping around me in a vice like hold with no escape.
Often i just want to end it all for i see no future.
I have had nothing but constant worry since my husband died almost 4 years ago, and for 10 years before that i cared for David in his battle with dementia.
I see no point in trying anymore,i am physically and mentally done.
All i do is work,i have no social life, and when i am asked out i am to exhausted to go, consequently i go days without seeing anyone, and even the meds for depression no longer give me hope, I am so tired, and seems doctors no longer care.
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That sounds like a good idea to see about moving and making a fresh start somewhere else with the dogs!
I moved to a new area quite recently after being evicted and I am starting to settle now and I do feel being evicted was the best thing that could have happened to me!
Sometimes a house is a blessing, sometimes it’s a curse, as we get older it’s finding someone to do repairs etc, the upkeep is never ending, weve had to have a new flat roof and a new gas boiler this year so far, we are in our seventies and been thinking of downsizing, even looking at selling the house and getting a flat which would give us lots of spare cash, it’s a worry . It’s so much easier if you rent, you’ve not got the repair bills for a start, everything is sorted for you
You are also still grieving , I feel for you, but I’m sure David wouldn’t want you to give up, do it for him 😘
If you really do want to 'Move' there IS A Way..... Let me explain.
Ok there are a considerable number of Faults, with the House, but ALL are fixable- at a price. So get some Good 'Quotes', for the work, and then Knock, The Cost, Off The Asking Price. Simply explain, to any Prospective Buyer, that the Old House Does need A Lot Of Work. Do add though that this was a Happy Household, with much Love and Caring.
My 'feeling' is that, provided to Price Is 'Reasonable' you WILL get a Sale, probably Quicker than you think.
I am also, quite sure, that once you have Indeed Sold, this Property- and Broken The 'Link' with David's 'Long Drawn Out Illness', you Will Feel 'Much Better' secrets. This might, very well, serve you as a Fresh Start- a Clean slate, if you prefer.
By all means DO Remember David but the Happy Times, not the illness and pain, the Holidays, that Stupid Tie!, that 'Daft' friend of his.....
Can I Finish by sending you my love sweetheart with a, Heart Felt, Prayer that you find the Peace you deserve.
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