Tired of being tired

[Findadream]

I am new to this group but found it on the internet tonight and thought I would give it a try. I am a single mom with two children. I have been dealing with depression and anxiety for over five years now but lately it has gotten worse. I only work two days a week at the moment and the rest of the time I am at home. It is hard to do anything. I don't want to clean house, I don't want to do grocery shopping, I don't want to do anything but sit on my couch and watch tv. I say I don't want to which is not correct, I want to do all of those things but can't seem to get the energy or the motivation who so. I want to be active again and happy and energetic but am at a lost as to how to get that all back again. I am failing at my job of being a good mother in my opinion because the day to day activities are so hard to motivate myself to do. I am in pain constantly and I know it's because of the depression and the lack of exercise and lack of eating right I just wish I could figure out how to get my life back.

[Dooglewildcat]

I completely understand how you're feeling! I wake up in the morning a dread the day because I want to get things done but have no motivation to do anything. Even watching tv puts me further into depression because I know I'm not accomplishing anything.

[blackcat64013]

Hi,

Welcome to your forum

I have been there and done that, in fact I am thinking I feel like I am going back there again. I am going to see the doctor next week.

To help you address the lack of motivation/energy/fatigue I have added a link for 13 useful tips which I found useful

keepinspiring.me/13-motivat...

The first thing to do is to visit your doctor, especially if you feel your situation has changed. There are medications for depression which help with pain and those which have energizing effects. You also need to rule out any underlying medical conditions which might be contributing to the decrease in overwellbeing.

If you can find a health psychologist in your area, it's worth organizing a visit. I didn't know they existed in the health system until I was referred by my GP.

I think it is worth sharing a few important points I discovered

Clinical

health psychologists have expertise in developing programs to help you to recover from or self-manage chronic illnesses like depression.

These great people can provide psychological treatments to reduce problems that can accompany illness (anxiety, depression) such as chronic pain, addiction, poor sleep, eating problems, and decreased motivation.

Health psychologists help you to cope with the diagnosis and medical treatment of all health problems (mental and physical) and to facilitate medical care.

Health psychologists assist you to improve your understanding how psychological and behavioural factors interact with the physical systems of the body and social factors to influence health and illness.

Their expertise is understanding the way that you behave or the underlying attitudes that put your health at risk and how you might change these behaviours to prevent illness and promote health

Identifying and treating the psychological impact of illness.

That's the clinical stuff.

Wishing you all the best

[Findadream in reply to blackcat64013]

Thank you so much. This information looks very promising, I am going to see if I can find one in my area. Also thank you for the link I am going to give some of them I try. I am willing to do anything to get over this.

[rubi1998]

Hola, te entiendo, de hecho, yo me siento de la misma forma que tu, no tengo energía ni motivación para hacer lo que quiero. Siento que desperdicio el tiempo y eso hace que me preocupe aun mas. La fatiga que siento es horrible, lo único que puedo hacer es ver videos y olvidarme de todo.

[mysmugcat]

Hi it must be hard for you and with your kids. I also have chronic fatigue syndrome/me, I was diagnosed at the doctor's. I don't get much help from them.

[KMac27]

I completely understand how you're feeling. I am in a similar situation except I work more. I find it hard to find motivation at work and home. Hang in there and try to focus on your goals. I have been trying to focus more on what I can do to better myself and situation rather than why I am upset etc.