I feel like I am always getting ghosted. I live a very isolated life and 99.5% of my interactions with other people are online. I genuinely try to be a nice guy and I have definitely cultivated the ability to be a good listener over the years. I like people, I like conversing over a wide variety of topics and sharing experiences. I even like polite debate with people who have opposing views (I think this can help us grow).
I have too often seen people on this forum or other platforms mention that they feel lonely, particularly disabled people (I see it with a lot of people who have anxiety disorders). You'd think that would make a place like this a good option to find someone to chat with... and I mean in a friendly way like a penpal; I was talking to a woman on here who suddenly felt the need to inform me that she is married and not interested in anything other than a chatty kind of friendship. I didn't say anything to make her feel otherwise and was a bit offended that I got lumped into some stereotype- this doesn't mean I don't understand. A lot of men can be horndogs and lack tact if they think there's a ghost of a chance they could get some ego-stroking attention.
I have tried not to be too self-critical, but I have looked at the situation fairly and I don't see what I've ever done that I've had so many people ghost me. I would prefer someone would be bluntly honest and say "I just don't like chatting with you" then vanish or stop talking to me for no apparent reason.
When you get burned in social situations (or feel left out as I do) it makes it that much harder to try and put yourself out there again. Still, I do make an effort from time to time, in whatever ways I can... but living online I feel limited and always feeling ignored... it hurts, it truly does hurt! I've read all kinds of medical papers on what isolation does to people. I try not to read those kinds of papers so much anymore. I look for the silver linings in life. I try to be considerate and entertaining in my own way... but it still hurts to be left out when unfortunate circumstances have limited what my life looks like already.
I'm at a loss.