Ruth's mother suffered from depression and complications with medications for her arthritis, and not too long into it died by suicide.
When Ruth began to experience anxiety and depression she decided to see a wellness coach. It was then that she learned that her feelings surrounding her mother's suicide still affected her, but she didn't have to continue feeling that way.
"In today's world, we don't have to sweep it under the rug, there doesn't need to be the skeleton in the closet and very well we don't have to suffer on our own. We shouldn't be afraid to talk to someone," Ruth says.
It's often said when someone takes their own life that their suffering is over, but it's only the beginning of a life time of suffering for those left behind, it's terribly sad.
It is a sorrow that no parent should ever have to out live their child, but a child to live without a parent lasts their whole life...it's unthinkable.
Sometimes suicide is a temporary state of mind when someone feels hopeless and see's no solution. But it's also often a permanent fix to a temporary situation at that time. it also sometimes leaves many behind to wonder why. This is always a personal choice certainly, and nobody knows what someone's reasons are, it could be terminal illness, unimaginable physical pain...and it can feel like the only control someone has over their life. I don't blame, or shame, or guilt trip anyone for being in this state of mind. I don't care about dogmatic rational or someone's selfish reasons for wanting a person to stay when they want to go.... but it's not always the answer, maybe it's a moment in time, ... and time passes, ... things change.... I'm glad I didn't follow through those many years ago... I live with my stuff better now , I am loved, I am mostly happisher, and I live where I have always wanted to be...
I have been down that road before of suicidal thoughts and ideation. I have never attempted but seriously thought about it many times.(not recently)The people that say 'it's a permanent solution to a temporary problem' don't realize that at the time it feels like the only solution to getting out of that horrible pain we are going th. rough, being stuck in a hole you feel you will never get out of.
I realized thankfully that it's not a solution... sadly many today are very scared in general with the media constantly posting so much gloom and doom when it's already been such a horrible two years, nobody knows what's gonna happen, but it's not looking very promising with so much going on.... that's evident with the number of people posting more and more about the same feelings of hopelessness. All anyone can do really is try to maintain their own lives, family, and living with their own issues. We can't fix anyone, and there are so many suffering now, empathy goes a long way...it's just too overwhelming if we try to take on everything. The off button works great for the news these days.
Of course we can't fix anyone or everyone, has to come from within, but if we can at least provide some empathy. You're right, it goes a long way. Just someone that shows they care. I don't watch the news at all. I see snippets here and there and that's more than enough for me.
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