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nick933
nick933

Hi im nik...I have social anxiety from when I was a child until now...im very bad at talking/communication, I dont understand how people can talk so easily with some1 let alone some1 they just met...so whenever I try to talk, the words just doesn't come out sometimes I cant arrange the sentence, from there people will start have this smirk on their face that's what makes me so depressed my whole life...I went to the psychologists once and she started bought up my childhood(my father to b exact suddenly I my heart started pounding so fast I was filled with anger,sad and mad...then I started crying out of those feelings...and then I stand up to wash my face at the sink in the room, as soon as I stand up she startled/moved I noticed by fear of me hurting her....so I decided I not going to revisit her by the looks of her face,the fear cause by my action to wash my face....right now im feeling death is the only solution, im not talking about suicide but if I die no one's gonna b sad or bother coming to my funeral....I got no friends at all, colleagues bay far the most close....even my boss wil move his lips once I started to talk to him about work thing, the thing that mles me md he moves his lips like I cant see he did it in front of me

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Hi, from your reaction to talking about your dad there is clearly anxiety and emotions around that. Please stick with therapy and work through those emotions, that is the path to healing yourself. It’s very hard but it does pay off. Don’t give up on yourself, you’ve made it this far.

Can you come up with a few standard responses to most questions? How about making a little list of the points you need to make when having to communicate specific information? Hang in there!

nick933
nick933 in reply to -Poetic2

Hi Lkevinrwin Tnx for the reply I'm so lost...can u make a little example?

Ok sure sweetly I will try. First off remember a quote I go by “ State your truth quietly and clearly”. Your boss. You have to talk about, say 2 things. Before you go to to meet take a moment before to write down the words you need to say. Practice so you will remember. Talk slowly and enunciate the best you can..,..Socially, First set your goal to just try not to stand out which is going to make you anxious. When you meet someone, look them in the eye, say “hello I am so and so” and shake their hand. In a group try to keep your hands busy. Help out maybe? You can use your written down, practiced go to phrases like “ that is Fascinating or that is so cool.” Smile, nod your head, just listen because most people like to talk about themselves. They will love you and not even realize why. Because you have become a great listener!!’

nick933
nick933 in reply to -Poetic2

Im agree with the method write down what im about to say and I will try that.....but to listen to people with less talking they will say im boring isn't it???trust me im the least likeable person when some1 wants to talk to cos I have nothing interesting to say

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-Poetic2 in reply to nick933

Trust me!!!People only want to talk about themselves!!! Ask anyone here. So, you try to listen...they won’t like you..,what do you have to lose? Go and try to feel comfortable or go and feel weird or not go and have no hope of learning social skills you will need your whole life!!!

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Hidden in reply to nick933

Everyone has something interesting to say. I think you are being way to hard on yourself! Stand strong...you are worth it!!! Hugs for you!!!

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Hidden in reply to nick933

You need to believe in yourself.....I'll be your friend. I'm sure I would find you interesting!!!! Love & Hugs!!!

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Please don’t let the psychologist’s reactions stand in the way of learning how to discover your personal truth! You’re there for yourself, not her. You probably need to work through your issues regarding your childhood. If you cry, that’s perfectly fine! I’ve been working on issues with my Father for many years and it’s ok. Every time I’ve thought that I mastered the negative self-talk, it creeps back up. Stay in therapy for you and forget about the psychologist’s mannerisms or find another psychologist! Wishing you the best!!

nick933
nick933 in reply to Hidden

I went back home last month but my father wont even look at me....sometimes I wonder am I even his real son or adoted...I havent went home for 4years now during holiday when the whole family gather I knew what will happen we will get into arguments....I dont even know what we were argue about...I will try to look for other psychologist thx

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Hidden in reply to nick933

I think you’ll be doing the right thing! Good luck! 🍀🍀

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