Mom

[Against_the_current]

Mom's annoying the hell out of me and sis. Sis has a competion on english and mom didn't saw she was studying all day and when she saw her resting, she stressed the hell out of us to study. I defended sis and she said "now you're responsible for her exams. If she fails and the teacher is mad, you're responsible". I only wanted to defend her so she's not stressed because stress makes it harder to study. And now i'm responsible and we're both stressed and mom's mad at us for disagreeing with her. And now i tried to talk to mom and she's upset at me and said i'm thinking she's a monster. Sis said that the way mom wanted to play with us, hurted her and mom said she wanted to play once and we're making her a monster. Sis said mom's inadequate and making us feel like we're ungrateful that she did the basic motherhood tasks, and is stressing her. And mom said we're ungrateful... Ah my sis said it better i'm so paniced, i can't explain it

[Hidden]

Do you all need to take an hour or so away from each other...

[Against_the_current in reply to Hidden]

I don't know. Would some distance solve it? Right now we can't but probably i should trying to move out again

[Hidden in reply to Against_the_current]

Maybe just an hour so you can all cool down a bit?

[Against_the_current in reply to Hidden]

It's like this everyday. And now we can't because we live in the same room and it's late to go out. I'm scared that it's constant

[Hidden in reply to Against_the_current]

Are there no fun things you can all try to do together or have you tried everything already?

[Against_the_current in reply to Hidden]

No and i don't think any of us are in the state. Mom drank, i'm anxious and sis is fed up with us coocoos and has homeworks or is gaming to avoid dealing with the pain mom causes

[Hidden in reply to Against_the_current]

It sounds like a hard time.

[Against_the_current in reply to Hidden]

It is 😭

[Hidden in reply to Against_the_current]

Hopefully things will get better .

[MaggieSylvie]

It sounds like you need a group hug. Mum is probably as stressed out as you and your sister are. This holiday has been too long with everything else that's going on. Be sure, things will change, but you have little control over life at the moment, so you have to look for support and peace within yourselves until things improve. Good luck with your studying and reaching your goals. 🤗🤗

[Against_the_current in reply to MaggieSylvie]

She's always like that. Not only when holidays, not only when stressed. And she's using it to use me. And i try my best to help her but she's never gotten enough. Today i had a panic attack washing the dishes and i kept on washing them, threw out the rubbish and wrote assignments even though my head was I and she was triggering me. I'm studing and helping but for her i do nothing. I'm really struggling when i get told that she's stressed too but she's like permanently stressed and the more i do to help her, the more she needs and needs. I'm totaly burnt out. I don't have a family but a battlefield. I really need a group hug 😭

[AdamFCastillo31]

That's sad to hear. In this busy routine of life, people don't have time to relax that's is one of the reasons for being stressed. She needs some rest/relaxation time so that she can focus on her tasks well. Cope-up strategies would help to get rid of this situation. I have tried these cope-up strategies and they worked well for me. I hope this might help you.Best of luck.

[Against_the_current in reply to AdamFCastillo31]

I know she's stressed too and that's making it worse. I try my best to support her but that only made her take more and more advantage of me and want more and more. We Ended up codependent and me burnt out and her demanding of more. I'm really empathetic towards her and she uses it. Also i do everything for her out of pure fear too.