My mom doesn't respect me

[Against_the_current]

Mom doesn't respect me at all and is drinking more and more. I was playing a videogame, a single videogame, the only thing that has sence in this misery(you guys too) and she made me get off her bed, then made me feed Bob and pour him water, then threw Bob's poop at my computer. Then shut off the lights to sleep. And when sis told her that's rude, she said I sleep all day and do nothing. She doesn't respect me at all. I hate her. I swear i hate her so much 😭. I hate you mom. I do. And you're only getting mad at me for hating you and i have to hide it. I always make sure you're confortable and you never do this for me. You're a barbarians. And then you wonder why we don't like you at home. I'm busy dealing with the damage you dealt. She thinks i'm only eating and sleeping. She thinks only she has problems. I want to kill this bitch or myself all the time 😭 and i end up acting nice

She thinks i only eat and sleep all day. And okay f me but my sister is gonna get 15yo. What will she do? Mom's drinking more and more. And won't talk about it or go to therapy

[Against_the_current]

And then she's gonna be even madder and meaner

[Against_the_current]

I'll get a balkan-style slap

[Against_the_current]

Violence won't solve it. She's much better than me in being bad. And i'm scared

[Against_the_current]

No, i'm just too frustrated to get it

[Dizzart]

It’s Alchoholism and it’s a nasty illness that eventually kills , even in my tiny village a woman died. The best advice and help in Britain is Alcoholics Anonymous as they are experts and also can advise you . Find someone like them , a Society for those living with the sickness which it is . I do so very very much hope you find help you may be strong but you need a strong kind helpful person to get you through 💕💕

[Against_the_current in reply to Dizzart]

Oh noooo 😭 i didn't want to hear this, i was worried exactly about this. She refuses any help. So please don't say it cause i'm gonna panic more. Terrible 😭

[Isinatra in reply to Against_the_current]

Is your mom hard to be around only when she’s drinking or does the alcohol make it worse? If so, then you should be mad at the alcohol, not your mom. She may not be able to stop drinking without help, but you can help yourself to understand her situation. Al-Anon is for people who have loved ones with drinking problems. It’s a support group for you. Your mom may not be alcoholic, but you definitely would benefit by understanding what alcohol does to a person. Your mom doesn’t need to be alcoholic for you to get help. 🍀

[Dizzart]

Please don’t panic lots of people have the same problem and lots of people I know including my daughter with her husband but he’s been off drink for a long time now just relapsed occasionally now. I read a book from Alchoholics Anonymous as my husband was bad, it was a great help to me to understand it and I didn’t want to admit to it all at the time but however strong you are you need a prop we all do so find a person of book to help you so you don’t feel alone, I promise it will help a bit 💕💕even if it’s just a friend you know to talk to and share the load you have to carry . XX

[Against_the_current in reply to Dizzart]

I hope i can find. Thanks for reaching out 💕

[Dizzart in reply to Against_the_current]

Don’t ever forget you have your own life to live though and your own future to plan as an older woman now . I’m 70 , I do think some times women give to much , good luck with all you do xx 🤞👍🏻😊

[DodgeDhanda]

Hi RM.

Ur mom doesn't hate you nor does she not respect you or ur sister . She actually hates herself & what she has become & she has fallen into the trap of thinking the drink will make her forget & its not working.

Ur mom needs to realise she needs to stop & do something about it all for her own health.

Now you need to start being more responsible & acting a child even if you are .

Life unfortunately doesn't give every child a good childhood & that's unfair for every child that has to suffer.

Can I ask where DAD is in all of this ?

If it is just u & ur sister with mom , do u have grandparents you can reach out to & ask for help ?

If its truly a hate filled environment then call child authorities that can get ur mom to sort herself out.

No matter whatthe situation , its time you need to take charge & learn to do things that makes ur life safer & that of ur sisters too .

Sorry if this upset you but the hate will only make you more hatefilled & all u will ever do is hate & that's not good for ur mental health.

[Lazy_dog_lover]

I am so sorry that you have to be hurt by her pain and selfishness. Do you feel that you and your sister are in danger at home or safe and just hurt by her behaviors? Do you have any adult family members that you can stay with?

Alcoholics will continue to escalate until either their body or spirit gives out. Who knows what her trauma was to make her escape with the alcohol? For you, it is irrelevant. You need safety and security.

You need to have a plan B…a safe space. I totally understand your response to her words and actions. Unfortunately, your response is the one thing you have control over in that whole scene. It is not about you or anything you have done. She has a trigger and you are in her range to lash out at.

Depending on where you live, there are different resources. You can’t change her. You can protect you and your sister with the proper help.