24 hours later.

[AlexisKY]

Hi guys, I’m back again. For those who don’t know, my boyfriend broke up with me yesterday. We were on/off together for 2.5 years. I had lied to him about something pretty serious (kept it from him in fear how he’d react) (no I never cheated, and it’s nothing related to that, I’d never do that) at first he was upset, and said he wouldn’t break up with me, then ended up getting mad, and breaking up with me. He ended up blocking me on all social media today. And last night after the break up, he had blocked my number as well. I’m unsure if it’s still blocked, because I figured I’d give him space, and didn’t try to reach out today. He made a comment over the phone when we talked yesterday, that he didn’t want to talk to me, and doesn’t know if he’d ever want to again. I know I hurt him, and broke his trust, which I never wanted to do. I’m very remorseful for what happened, and I don’t regret telling him the truth, I regret keeping it a secret for so long and hurting him with lying.

TLDR; has anyone else ever had an ex block you on all accounts? Have you guys ever reconciled? I’m at wits end here. My anxiety is through the roof, and I’m depressed and fearful that he’ll never talk to me again.

[Batterina]

The best thing to do is go on a trip. Turn off your devices, just be with yourself for a while. It will suck at first but after some time you'll get bored and "therapize" yourself. When you get back he can't wait to talk to you!!!

[Fearoffear]

Alexis I'm sorry you're going through this emotional break-up. I know you feel bad but it did have the result you feared in telling. Give him space and wait a few weeks and see how it goes. It's like the saying, "If you love it set it free, if it returns it was meant to be". When he calms down if he wants to sit down and talk about it and get past it he is a good man. If he doesn't he wasn't mature enough to end it on mutual understanding. I set my first husband free and he came back, wish he would have got lost🙄 I had to call the fireman to use their axe to get rid of him. All I'm saying is take this time for yourself, meditate do a spa day for yourself I do it once a month in my bedroom close the door and do my nails give myself a facial. Hangout with friends, go shopping (credit card therapy😂) do things you haven't done in a while. Before you know it you'll be on your way to the next chapter. Hope your eating a pint of ice cream and watching a good chick flick. Gentle hugs 🫂🫂

[Tara52 in reply to Fearoffear]

Great advice 👍💗🙂

[Hidden in reply to Fearoffear]

I had just posted that saying to someone else about setting it free. That is so true. I've done that to find out that setting it free was the best thing I did. I'm happier now than I was before. You have to set it free from your heart also otherwise it will be that much harder on you.

[Hidden]

It is never easy when you are destroying yourself over guilt. It does take time. As I mentioned before take things as they come. And do for yourself right now. There is nothing left you can do. I know that sounds wrong and everything in you wants to make things right but the only way to do that is for both parties to talk. That isn't an option right now and trying to force it to be one is going to do nothing but make things worse. It's going to make you more anxious and it's going to make him more angry than he already is. You have done all that you can right now. All that is left is to take care of yourself because you are hurting too. So take this time to work on you. In time when things are less heated you both may talk again and it may work out. It may not. None of us know the future but trying to force something will only ever make things worse in the long run. Take some time to do some self care. Do what you need to for yourself. Let go of things for now, as again, there is nothing more you can do at this time. Let him have his distance and you have yours. No matter what happens you will be okay because you can learn from this and you can be a better person coming out then when you went in. And that will lead to better relationships later on. I know it hurts right now. I know how unbearable it is. Trust me I know better than most what it's like to feel guilt over something you did. I know how much it hurts to blame yourself for everything. But you took action. You put in effort. That proves you are not a bad person. A bad person wouldn't have cared about their partners feelings. You did. So yes you made a mistake. I won't condone it. I won't say it was okay. But it happens. None of us are perfect. Believe me I have made horrible mistakes in my life. But we learn and we grown. It's never easy to walk away but that is what is needed for things to heal. Now you need to learn to trust yourself again. And trust that no matter what happens you will be a better person coming out of this experience. You still deserve good things. You still deserve to be happy.

[Tara52 in reply to Hidden]

👍💗😍

[AlexisKY]

Thanks everyone, it’s been really hard, even if it’s been barely 48 hours. We went from talking 24/7, to no contact at all. We had talked about getting married and everything, so I was so sure this was it for me, and we were finally where we needed to be. We were both happy. I feel awful for keeping something bottled up for so long, but I just didn’t know how he’d take it. It’s definitely hard going on everyday without him talking to me anymore

[Hidden]

I went out with a girl for four years, the problem was She would lie and would keep it up until we broke up. The problem is you can protect yourself against a thief, which is bad enough, however you cannot protect yourself from a liar.

The problem no matter the lie once precedence has been set, the fear that in marraige it can lead to something worse.

That may be the problem here. My Wife and I never lie, it is one of the golden rules of marriage

I do not know what the lie was, however you need to consider how your boyfriend feels. His thoughts may be very similar to our household. I will not lie and enter the slippery slope. I know it is hard to accept, it may be He will be back, hopefully. Whatever happens you do have something to think about

BOB

[AlexisKY in reply to Hidden]

Yeah, I was trying to be open and honest about everything, but had been keeping something a secret because I was afraid how he felt. I finally came to realization that I didn’t want to do that anymore, and that I truly wanted to go forward in our future being 100% completely honest. I definitely feel remorse, and I plan to never lie or do that again. I’m sure he’s gone for good this time. He’s blocked me on absolutely everything.

[Hidden in reply to AlexisKY]

Do not be negative regards this, Life and relationships area learning experience, Hopefully He will be back and you will both have learned well how relationships are more fulfilling when you are both honest to eachother. Sad to say if He fails to contact you again eventually you will find someone who is honest and truthful to you and then with what you learned the relationship will be more positive and loving

Remember if He doesnot return it may be the Relationship was not the one for you. We all go through similar sometimes in life, we learn from errors made

BOB

[Tara52 in reply to Hidden]

Such great wisdom!👍😇

[DodgeDhanda]

Sorry to say this but even if Ur ex opens the lines of communication again I doubt he will ever be able to truly trust U ever again & if he comes back is it good for either of U being in a relationship where Ur scared that he will question U all the time & he even after questioning U still have his doubts . I thank U for being honest & I don't mean this in a nasty way U should've as honest with him.

That way it would've been easier to handle as U didn't hide it for so long.

Some may find it strange that he reacted so badly to an omission but I can see where he is coming from & like U he was invested in ur relationship but due to past occurances he decided long ago that if it happened again he was gone as he needed to shield himself from what he sees as a major incident. Not the thing that happened but the hiding of it , he possibly felt that U had no trust or faith in him either & that's why U didn't tell him.

I'm sorry it's the way it is but it's why I say honesty is above all else. Enough harsh talk.

TIME!!! that's the only thing U can give each other. If U need to talk to him write a letter on paper as its heart felt & from U.

[Midori]

His reaction is to be expected, You don't specify what you lied about, but I think perhaps his reaction was somewhat extreme.

He is unlikely to want to speak with you again, and it would appear he doesn't want your apologies, but, only time will tell.

In the meantime, give yourself a few days to settle your emotions, before you go out again looking for a boyfriend, and be Honest this time, for your own sake, and his. It isn't just you hurting.

Cheers, Midori

[Tara52]

Breakups are so painful no matter who was right or wrong. 😔 As painful as it is use this time for self reflection and for learning. I am glad you are reaching out You are not alone in all of this. We are here and don't judge you A loving all powerful God is always there to help guide and comfort you!😍 Hugs!

[4Penny]

Hello, I wonder how you're coping..I hope you are. I recently started having anxiety attacks, what a horrible feeling. I wake up normal and by the time i make my coffee there it goes with my heart beating out of my chest. I hope you are ok. I am 67 and have been seeing someone for a year and a half..almost every weekend and if he doesn't see me for any obvious reason, I get anxious..that's how this actually started...I don't know how to handle my day and now get the attacks.

[AlexisKY in reply to 4Penny]

It’s definitely been a roller coaster trying to cope and manage. I’m not even sure how I’m going through my days. Talking to friends helps a lot, but at the end of the night it’s just back to being lonely and having anxiety again. I keep reminding myself that this will end someday, so I’m holding on to the hope that it does

[4Penny]

Thank you for your msg...I hate feeling the way I do..when will it end.....