Teenager warning alert!!!

[Lulu02]

This is a very much a teen having a ‘crisis’ I guess not an anxiety/depression issue but I don’t know where else to ask for ‘help’. Feel free to laugh at how pathetic my problem is:

I am potentially about to do something insane and I just need to hear everyone else’s views on it and whether I am about to ruin my life or I’m just ‘living life to my fullest’ I guess. So the other day I met a guy through this one-day course we were taking. In the second/last part of the course were the ‘company staff or whatever’ partnered us together for the practical component. This part of the course lasted two hours and we really connected with each other and I found him very easy to talk to (which is odd because I can’t talk to anyone). It got to the point where I was planning on asking for his number at the end of the course (again this is crazy as I have never and would never do anything like this) but in the end he left before I was able to ask him. Now this would convince me that we he wasn’t interested although it appeared that he really needed to go to the bathroom (which was across the street) so the instructor dismissed him as it was the end of the course anyway (he never exclaimed he needed to use the bathroom although the way he was moving did). Now whilst this was happening I was getting some forms signed off just before I left although there ended up being some difficulties so I was never able to catch up to him as he must’ve left by then.

Ever since I’ve been really upset, even if we never romantically involved, I really liked his company as a friend and he appeared to as well. He making joke about me and I was making jokes about him and I just has an amazing time with him. I’ve exhausted all social media’s trying to find him which has led me to my last (insane, crazy, what am I doing!?) resort. So the company has both mine and his details as we both signed up for the course, since it’s probably illegal for the company to share his details with me, I was thinking of requesting that the company share him my details.

I realise this is insane but I will never see this guy again and I feel that I would regret it if I didn’t at least try as best as I could. I also realise that there is a great chance that this won’t even work: 1. The company probably won’t want to get involved incase something goes wrong 2. He will probably think I am absolutely physco and 3. Idk this blows up and I’m on the news and everyone knows about it and I live the rest of my life in misery because I was being a stupid teen thinking I was so in love .

The other half of me though is like: 1. So what it doesn’t work and you just go about your life (it’s not like you’re ever going to run into him in the future 2. I could be missing out on one of the greatest opportunities in my life and what stoped me was fear and 3. Live your life! You’re only on this earth for so long p, just do it!

I don’t know I need help, please help me!!

[Hidden]

So how old is this guy. That's very important before you make a move. Is he married? Does it go against job policy. Just some things to think about.

[Lulu02 in reply to Hidden]

He is the same age as me. He is still in school like me (although I am dropping out in December) and he plans on doing an apprenticeship after school.

[Lulu02 in reply to Lulu02]

I believe he goes to a respectable school although even is he doesn’t he is very well spoken and kind

[Hidden in reply to Lulu02]

Ok. So why not take a chance and make a move?

[Lulu02 in reply to Hidden]

I’m so terrified, I saw the post you posted today. Was meeting your husband this insane? I’m not saying I’m going to be married to this guy but have you ever done something thing crazy, if so how did you do it??

[Hidden in reply to Lulu02]

I met him on a blind date. I think that's insane but it was love at first sight. Sometimes you just have to jump and see what happens. Good luck.

[Sunshine425]

You are a teen! Take a step back.

You are feeling some kind of way because good people are hard to find. So when we meet someone we have a connection with we feel it inside of us so powerful. I think a lot of us "older woman" can all relate to being boy crazy at one time in our younger years. Being obsessed with the idea of romance is so normal. Dont beat yourself up over how you are feeling! My guess is your between 16- 18 ? Boy did I have some boy obsessions that caused me to act a lil nuts.

All good things happen when we are patient and also, not expecting it. I know its not something you want to hear, but whats meant to be will find away. All you can do is feel grateful for this interaction. It brought some positive vibes to your day❤ thats not a bad thing.

[Sunshine425 in reply to Sunshine425]

I just think asking the company is a little extreme. But who am I to tell you what to do? I do feel like us women deserve to take a lead and make moves. I know I had to take the lead in my relationship a little bit when we first started talking. And it worked out perfect. Best of luck on whatever you decide!

[Lulu02 in reply to Sunshine425]

Thank you, that’s the part that I am worried about is that I’m just being a teen full of hormones. But at the same time I am more than happy with being friends and I feel like I am missing the opportunity to get to know this person more.

I also think about what I would do if I was an adult in this situation. Would I just let it go or would I be reacting the same way I am now. I know it’s extreme but I don’t want to regret the things I don’t do.

I’ve been talking to my friend about it and we’ve agreed that if I was to do it I should just make some fun out of it and not dwell over the overcome. In 20 years time we can just look back on this time and laugh at how hormonal I was.

[Lulu02 in reply to Lulu02]

In reality I probably won’t work but at least I won’t regret not doing it. Messing up gives you more stories to tell, it’s what makes life interesting and worth it.

[Sunshine425 in reply to Lulu02]

Well, I only hope we get an update! Choose happy🙂👍

[Lulu02 in reply to Sunshine425]

😟😫

[Sunshine425 in reply to Lulu02]

Anxious?

[Lulu02 in reply to Sunshine425]

I almost had a panic attack 🤦🏻‍♀️

[Sunshine425 in reply to Lulu02]

Did something else happen??? Or you still reflecting ?

[Lulu02 in reply to Sunshine425]

Nothing really, i think also in doing this I’m overcoming my greatest fear of rejection and people have a bad perception of me which is maybe why I also want to do it so much because it will show that I can do it

[Lulu02 in reply to Lulu02]

I think it’s just that this is so much bigger than a girl meets boy kinda of thing. It goes deeper into my social anxiety and the fears that I push to the back of my head

[Sunshine425 in reply to Lulu02]

Im a social anxiety survivor. I sent you a PM.