I’m writing on here because I have absolutely nobody to talk to. I feel like I’m at the lowest place in my life.
I have been depressed for awhile, but when I was younger I was able to mask the pain even more, now in my later 20’s I seem to can’t handle anything thrown my way.
Truth is, I never really got help or closure from childhood, I was raped and my virginity was taken away by a family member. That family member is still around in my life, the reason I didn’t tell as a 12-15/16 year old girl was the embarrassment of it, and not wanting my family to go through shame. I would ignore the trauma and hurt and continued living my life.
I always had issues with men, never been in a serious relationship with a guy, always through the dating and talking stage, and I always felt that a man never thought I was good enough! They just wanted me for sex. I hardly have sex, and actually only would have sex to please the men.
I was having so many issues, I was not wanting to be around family, my family was a disaster , because of what happened to me, it tore the family apart and I wanted to be far away.
I would work and save up money and travel every chance I get, and I soon realized, traveling was therapeutic for me. At 25, I embarked in a new job field as a flight attendant! I loved it, being a new flight attendant I was broke as hell! But spent every free time I had going on vacation , and chose to be based far away from anyone, it was great!
Then same year after flight graduation, I was dating a guy in my new city , and Every time we had sex , we used condoms. But one night I remember being drunk with him, wearing condoms, call me naive and stupid, but I could not feel the difference of him taking the condom off, I was under the impression he wore it the whole time.
Few weeks went by, I felt weird and told him, he then blamed me and called me dirty and said it was me! I probably gave him something, so I got tested and I was clean! He was my only sex partner! And I shared the results with him, he apologized but I blocked him afterwards.
One day I was working a flight , and threw up all over myself, every smell made me sick, everything the motions made me sick, my own body odor made me sick, and being on the plane flying made me terribly sick, I threw up all on my uniform! I thought I had a terrible case of food poison. I rushed to the doctors , and she said it sounded like I was pregnant. I was telling her I knew for sure I wasn’t , because I always used protection. Well I took a test and 3 mins later i was pregnant. I broke down crying , because this wasn’t how I envisioned my first time pregnant, and I just started a new job, far from family , no help, and on top of that I had horrible sickness and couldn’t work without throwing up. Took and ultrasound, found out it was twins! I was devastated , I told the guy and he didn’t believe me! He blocked my number, blocked my friends number, blocked me on social media, and called me dirty and said it wasn’t his ! I was in this alone! I didn’t tell my mother. I went and had an abortion. I felt so guilty having it, literally less than 24 hours after having an abortion I worked and flew the next day, and worked ever since! Long hours 6 day weeks 1 day off. Traveling and working helped me with stress. Until 2018, I dated someone new , overseas, they acted like they liked me but really didn’t care , even put their hands on me one time, I was very suicidal at this time. I ended up pregnant again, and told him, this person once again did what the guy did in 2017 and blocked me. Now at 27, second time pregnant , also was at risk for miscarriage, and on top of that I was on anti depressants, which you can’t be on while pregnant.. I wasn’t eating, wasn’t getting out of bed, wasn’t doing anything, so I had another abortion. This time it was bad. 3 weeks later, it still showed I was pregnant , so I had to have another DNC, I had leftover conception. I was in pain, I had to get rushed to hospital, have dnc , and a laparoscopy surgery. I was bleeding for months. I was on the plane shooting out huge blood clots one time .I decided to take a medical leave of absence from work. My mother knew a psychologist , I was seeing the psychologist 45-50 mins every single week, and I was diagnosed with severe depression disorder , and anxiety. I was prescribed mood stabilizers, I was prescribed sleeping pills, I was prescribed anti depression meds. 3 pills, none of the pills worked, so we gave the pills a 4-6 week trial and none seemed to help at all, I was starting new medication every 4-6 weeks, I was so frustrated ! And the doctor didn’t release me to work, so I was off work for a long time, no money coming in, my short term disability check exhausted. I wasn’t able to pay for insurance anymore, the psychologist or meds. I explained to the doctor that I would rather do it the natural way, and I explained that getting back to work, and flying will help with my depression , as sitting at home in a family home where I was raped was not helping me overcome my depression. She released me back to work. My airline however said “due to my illness of the depression” they would need an airline doctor to make sure I’m ok to go back to work. Well the doctor already released me, and signed the paperwork and turned it in! I didn’t have $400 a week to afford to give the doctor to see them every week. And I felt my job alienated me because of my depression, and made me feel like I wasn’t a sound or safe person. I felt like they discriminated against me! I never got a schedule, and my job didn’t release me. On medical leave of absence , I wasn’t allowed to travel or use my flight benefits while on leave .(which I didn’t know.) I thought since I was released , surely it was ok to use them, and my job didn’t plan on releasing me! I became depressed worse than before I seen the psychiatrist , then before I wanted to comity suicide and before I cut myself . Being depressed , doesn’t mean you have no bills, and you have no life. I decided to use the flying benefits and traveled. Well 3 weeks ago I had a meeting with my job, and they were going to terminate me for using my benefits , so I resigned .
My life already had issues, I regret ever going to the psychologist to get help, I regret telling my job I wanted a leave of absence. Absolutely nobody cares about me. I tell men I have several issues I have to work out, and they act like they care, just to turn around a fuck.
Now that I left the job, I’m currently back at the family home I was raped at. I can not sleep at all, I’m writing this message at almost 1 am. I loved flying!
I also was dating someone new overseas, and was living overseas. I don’t know if the abortion messed me up last year, but after I had sex with him, I had a severe pain, I was hunched over , I felt like I was going to throw up, I was crying, I couldn’t pee/I couldn’t sit up straight, it was an intense pain, I was throwing up every where. I couldn’t even tell him, because I was too scared , so he was sound asleep. I went to the hospital 9 days later because the pain didn’t go away, and they told me I had ruptured ovarian cyst . I told him, and he was like you should’ve went to the hospital. He doesn’t know about the abortion, or my past and he’s always asking and I’m too scared to tell him, I have told guys before and they ended up doing me way worse . I feel I always have to deal with everything alone.
I’m currently so depressed, valentine’s just passed as well, no call or nothing from them. I never had a valentine’s in my life, or felt loved or wanted . When i was raped, and my virginity was taken, i was told , that it was because i was in trouble. I feel like sex always ends up getting me in trouble, even though i hardly have sex.
Now I’m currently back at the family home, because i put a leave out for my job at the airline, i have no way to escape or do anything , i didn’t get the help from the psychologists, and currently have no insurance because i left my job, so i can’t see a doctor, can’t see a psychologist , go to therapy or talk to anyone .I just keep thinking the world will be better without me. I keep seeing people comity suicide and it’s so tempting. I’m crying as I’m writing this.
Please don’t judge me for my abortions! And please don’t judge me for my decisions in men! I’m 28 years old, I’ve been ridiculed my whole life, I don’t need this at this time.