Mad and depressed.

[UkyoCoanccy]

People said to me "when you feel anxious use your technics or talk to someone. That will help", so I have tried some times to talk about it, but what I always hear is, " All people are at some point of our life anxious or depressed. It is normal".

When I hear that, I get mad, but I do not say anything about it. They make me feel like if I am exaggerating.

I know that all the people that are not related with anxiety and depression do not understand, but when my psychiatrist or my case worker said the same thing to me, I feel bad.

I always say in my head " why am I telling them how I felt the past days if half of the time they say that is normal".

Then I decide no to tell them anymore. Then I think "what happen to me. What am I expecting for them to tell me. I am bad".

After all that fighting in my head with my ideas, I get mad, then depressed, then disappointed, then I feel stupid, and then I just want to be alone and no to talk to anybody.

I know that my medicine for my depression and anxiety is working. I have noticed the difference. But when that situation happen again I feel hopeless and depressed.

What am I doing wrong.?

[Hidden]

I don't really think you're doing anything wrong. Maybe you might be overthinking all of it, or over processing, perhaps ruminating, I don't know and I'm not sure. I happen to have bipolar disorder and I'm going through a hellish time these days, I'm out of my mind so I'm not the best one for logical, rational advice right now, I'm just going with what popped into my mind. I hope you feel better eventually, maybe don't get all hung up on what some people say, and if you feel like they're brushing you off with some answer they tell all of their clients, speak up and say how you feel.

[Hidden]

I think they say it's normal in terms of context, not that you shouldn't be worried about having anxiety. I could be wrong but it sounds like they are trying to support that you do in fact feel the way you do and that is okay. Not okay as in you are doing well emotionally but okay is in the way you are feeling makes sense and is an acceptable reaction to your circumstances. However, with that being said I want to say that you are valid in feeling like your anxiety is worse than the common anxiety everyone feels day to day. It is difficult and terrifying. It's more than simply being able to not worry about it. The anxiety that you feel consumes you and takes control of you for a short period of time. It is understandable that if someone tried to lessen that experience you would be upset. Just remember to take things slowly be patient with yourself and focus on your progress. Practice mindfulness and grounding to help when the anxiety kicks in. And eventually you will be able to take control back. You are doing nothing wrong if you fall every now and again. remember that progress is not linear. And sometimes having a bad day is going to happen but that doesn't mean you are not making progress. You are not doing anything wrong. Take things at your pace.

[JAFOman]

I am so sorry. You and I seem to be going through the same problem. Although you are doing better since you have taken the step and gotten medication, working on finding someone to help me with that. I am tired of keeping it inside, being dismissed or shamed because I didn't have a tragic life event that made me this way. The cause isn't the issue, it's the pain and just want 1 person in my.life to look at me and say "tell me about it. I want to listen" just something that shows they care enough to help, not to fix me just be there

[san_ray70 in reply to JAFOman]

Do you belong to a church, you can get help to just talk and be listened to. There are a lot of volunteers who call lonely people, I am one, all I do is call and say how are you. Most of the people are pleased that I call. I have made friends of people I have never met. Please find a person or organisation to help. The B.B.C. have a site called Head Room all about mental health.

[JAFOman in reply to san_ray70]

I was raised Lutheran, private school through high school, tried being active in church. Not a fan anymore, a strained relationship with God and with the way things are going not in a hurry to reconnect with fellow "Christians". I do appreciate your advice and I am happy to hear it is working for you. Religion is not for me right now. Just trying to figure out what medical provider to try

[Hidden]

I don't think there is something wrong u are doing but maybe a change of a therapist. I'm not saying he or she is wrong but you realy do need a positive person in ur life, not one who will put you down. If not change the therapist, maybe look into discussing this with her and how you feel when she is talking negetive.