I have been struggling with depression for almost 20 years now. I have my ups and downs, but I am usually able to pull myself up after being down. I have been stuck in a "down" for months now and have tried so many things to bring myself back up, but they are not working. I just feel alone and sad most of the time and have no interest in being around others or doing things. I have tried yoga, meditation, counseling, journaling, books, and many prayers.
What are some things that you have tried to bring yourself back up?
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I found the strength to end my toxic relationships and friendships some time ago and it gave me a lot of peace. I'm just having trouble finding things to do that make me happy. After losing myself for so long, it's hard to remember what I enjoy.
May I suggest that you perhaps just try one of those things that you said you’ve done.it has taken me 10 yes to get where I am now on a very up and down journey,some painful some happy..
If you take what you say you’ve done and divide that by many months that equates roughly 2 weeks per subject you’ve tried.
Councilling takes many months.
I did 10 yrs of serious hard core meditation that you just can’t learn in two weeks.
I know what you mean though.I want it to work now.
So I suggest try just going with the feeling even though it hurts it will pass
That is great advice. I should stick with something that I have enjoyed in the past for a longer period of time. When the very bad days some, I just want to give up even trying. It's important to push especially hard during those hard days.
Hi! I have days and weeks like this too, where I'm just not feeling up for anything. Usually what I do is find something productive to do when I feel even the slightest bit of motivation crop up, so I can feel like I'm doing something other than just sitting around. Something like cleaning the kitchen or doing some dishes/laundry.
Another things that helps me is music! I listen to music basically 24/7 and it honestly helps my mood so much. So you could also try to find some music you enjoy to listen when feeling down, if that's something your interested in.
Hi I think I know how you feel. Lately I get myself feeling better but it doesn’t seem to last. My depression keeps breaking through over and over again. Sometimes being kind to myself is letting myself accept it because it does pass eventually. It’s the repetition that is getting to me. I can not seem to maintain a better state of mind for any real length of time. Well, not very helpful to you maybe, but I do hear you. Take care and good luck. It’s tough especially in these times of Covid.
I am the same way. In the past my good and bad times would last longer. Lately they keep changing from one to the other very often. I think it does have a lot to do with how Covid has changed our way of life. It's important to be kind to ourselves on our bad days.
I feel you I have also tried them all. I almost feel like maybe I am feeling a bit over stimulated by people now. I have learned that keeping good habits does help for a while. and trying to keep toxic habits at bay. Does it help to talk to friends on the phone? Sometimes seeing children and there innocent energy helps me.
I used to have a good support system and friends around. After my last bad relationship ended 2 years ago, I completely shut myself out. I think that is why I have been feeling more lonely and depressed lately. I just can't get myself to want to make friends again or reach out to old friends.
It is understandable. So many emotions that swell Sadness, loneliness, guilt and anger. At least these are the ones that can hit me all at once and it seems better sometimes to just stay alone. I have found that trying to just make one new friend can sometimes help me a lot. At least has been better for me than finding a new romance that can be a ticking bomb for me.
Meet up is good well if you live in the USA. I joined a knitting group it was small and we knitted I loved my group. But were I live we are in government lockdown on weekends and are not allowed under any circumstance, well unless emergency like ambulance to leave our homes.
I had to learn that depression and anxiety are mental diseases that I did not cause,can’t control and can’t cure. Stress increases it in me. It is pretty hard to do that. On bad days I do at least one thing to help myself . Getting out of bed, and crediting myself for doing it. 2nd day, out of bed and brush my teeth.3rd out of bed.brush teeth,wash face. Simple foods to eat,drink water, have gator aid in refrig: Take one bite out of the elephant at a time. Good councelor, psychiatrist for meds, support group like us that understand. When you are able do things you enjoy. We don’t have a cure yet for this disease but we have many tools to cope.I have had this disease for many years. Let me know if I can help
I had to gradually learn that as well. In the past I would get angry and question " why am this way" and "what is wrong with me". It helps to finally realize that it's the mental disorder that causes those thoughts and emotions. I agree, it is important to do something for yourself at least once a day. My new goal has been to dedicate at least 30 minutes of the day to something that I enjoy. Thank you I truly appreciate your comment.
With this Pandemic I am spending more time inside. I walk outside when the weather permits. I also like to read, crochet( finishing an Afghan),crossword puzzles, do games on my I-phone and color. It is so important to do something we like to keep the seratonin levels in our brain to keep going. The more we stop taking care of our basic needs the more our depression gets fed. Sounds like you are using your tools in giving yourself self care. We all get down. The important thing is to get up again and never give up.
Good morning,I am sorry to hear how you are struggling. How is your eating habit? Are you drinking plenty of water? How about exercising outside and getting fresh air each day? At least an hour of fresh air outside every day. Do you read or have a hobby? How about volunteering? Do you have any family or friends that you can go out with and have a coke or coffee? Do you like bike riding or hiking? Window shopping? Maybe you can get to know your neighbors and make some cookies and visit with them? Do you enjoy children? Gardening or crafts? Maybe you can take a college course on something that you enjoy doing- painting, writing, history, baking/cooking, pottery...?
These are all really great suggestions. I haven't been excising as much lately and need to start again. A simple 30 minute walk used to make me happy and gave me more energy. It has been so cold lately and I really miss walking around the neighborhood. My diet has been pretty healthy for some time now.
I love to paint, color, draw...I haven't thought about that in a while. Thank you for bringing that up
Hey, I've seen here with all of you as a family for months. I feel so much better after sharing my heart here. We all are like a family and always there to help each other. I feel anxiety is the worst ever thing that had happened to me. I have lost a lot of precious things to my mental health issues.
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Tip#2 : No medicines can help you for a long time.
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