How do you enjoy being by yourself

[Pris1980]

I ask myself all the time l, how do people enjoy time by themselves, with only themself? How do you manage an overactive mind with constant thoughts about all kinds of random things? How do you calm your mind down enough to be able to even enjoy watching tv? How do you bring peace and stillness into your life so you can be able to sit still w/o feeling like your gonna jump out of your skin? I still struggle daily with being able to sit still or even focus long enough to watch tv, movies, or read. When I'm home I don't even sit on my couch, I stand up bc I just feel very jittery almost like i have electric currents pulsing through me. I don't know how to calm myself enough to be able to enjoy my couch or read a book. I seem to lose interest very quickly or get bored and then I'm on to the next thing. I am usually on the go and go out every night after work just so I'm not sitting at home bored by myself. I just wonder if anyone struggles with this too???

[Anthonysnervous7]

I panic when I’m by myself

[gogogirl]

I don't panic, but I do ruminate. However, when I am by myself I let my mind go where it has to go rather than repress it.

[Momof2boyz in reply to gogogirl]

That's a really good point. . trying not to fight the thoughts is hard because some times they bring on negative emotions and no one wants to feel bad. But thinking the thoughts and feeling the feelings and then letting them go is healthiest. Definitely a very hard skill to perfect. I can't do it yet. I get caught up in the feelings. But hoping to one day improve this skill. We all should try

[gogogirl in reply to Momof2boyz]

I get caught up also- it's tough.

[Pris1980 in reply to Momof2boyz]

Your right, I need to work on allowing myself to feel my feelings then let them go. Letting go is the hard part. It's like once those feelings or thoughts are there, you feel them intensely which is never a good feeling bc they are usually negative. So I guess maybe I avoid wanting to feel bad or low so I distract myself. My therapist tells me that i have all or nothing thinking and I need how to find balance. This is trucky bc my mind has alwaya been "all ot nothing" so This is going to take some work..!!! Thanks for your thoughts

[shiney69]

Keep yourself busy may help. Iam new to this but that what iam trying. good luck.