First full week of August......What to do?

[bridder01]

Hi everyone! Brian here. I want to first welcome all the new members to the community! Sorry I haven't been around to say hi earlier but I was kinda hiding from the internet lol. So welcome aboard and I sincerely hope you are able to make good use of the site as I have.

Next up for me is another try to start the radiation treatment for my tumor on Wednesday. After the misfire last Thursday, I was afraid I would get frustrated and get depressed about it. Oddly enough, I just want it to happen faster lol. I didn't get frustrated or depressed, which is a first for me lol. If anything, I'm anxious to get things moving. Time waits for no one, or so the saying goes lol

I've also been noticing a lot of people talking about relationship problems lately. Never being in a long-term relationship myself, I don't feel I can contribute much in that area. What I will say is this: Before you can love someone else, you must first love yourself. After all, how can you give someone something if you don't have it for yourself to begin with? Also, take your time! Love, like a lot of things in life, doesn't just spring up overnight. It has to grow, be nurtured and allowed to blossom in it's own time. Lust can seem like love, but it is a very poor substitute. Finally, there's not a written rule that says you have to be in a relationship. Sometimes, being single isn't a bad thing. For me, I know what I want in a relationship. I also know what I don't want. I also want to take time to get to know the other person. I'm sorry, but you can't know a lot about the other person in 3 dates. I want a friend I can trust before I want a lover. Call me fussy, but hey, I'm not some schmo you meet in a bar lol

For those who are just depressed with life and think that the mental pain will never end, well let me tell you, it will get better! It may not seem like it now, but it will. As with all things in life, we have peaks and valleys in our emotional states. Sometimes we're up. Other times we're down. The trick is to stay focused on getting back to the high times. When we're down, we have to fight a little more to get back to an even keel. Believe it or not, you can do it! If you really want something in life, you have fight to get it. No, not physical fighting lol. It takes determination, perseverance, and fortitude. Not everything can be accomplished easily. Plus, you're not alone in this fight! You have all of us here backing you up!

So what are you waiting for? Tell the depression to bother someone else! You can beat it!

Your friend,

Brian

[Starrlight]

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[morenews]

I want to put it on a wall in front of me and read it every day:

"For those who are just depressed with life and think that the mental pain will never end, well let me tell you, it will get better! It may not seem like it now, but it will. As with all things in life, we have peaks and valleys in our emotional states. Sometimes we're up. Other times we're down. The trick is to stay focused on getting back to the high times. When we're down, we have to fight a little more to get back to an even keel. Believe it or not, you can do it! If you really want something in life, you have fight to get it. No, not physical fighting lol. It takes determination, perseverance, and fortitude. Not everything can be accomplished easily. Plus, you're not alone in this fight! You have all of us here backing you up!"

Well said! thank you, Brian. And wishing you the best with your treatment.

[bridder01 in reply to morenews]

Anytime!

[Hidden]

Hey Brian! I wish you all the best with your treatments! You’re a wonderful person & I know you can get through this! Thinking of you always! xo

[bridder01 in reply to Hidden]

Awww shucks, Kayla! *blushes* I'm just an average Joe lol

[Wilderness13]

Thanks for welcoming us new joiners...

I really like your message.

All the best with your treatment.

[bridder01 in reply to Wilderness13]

Thanks Wilderness! Welcome to the party!

[Florida1959]

Wonderful post, quite often we get sucked into the drama, I am a baby step type, but one thing, I never give up, that black dog can sod right off, not easy I know, tell myself I am enough, xxxx

[bridder01 in reply to Florida1959]

That's the spirit! Never give up! Never surrender!

[Florida1959 in reply to bridder01]

Thanks a lot, x

[Hidden]

Hoping for the best with your treatment. Also thanks for the welcome. peace.

[Hidden]

Thanks for the warm welcome. I wish you the best on your treatment.

[kevinloveslen]

Hello Brian! I am a new member to the site and really appreciate the welcome. Thank you so much! I don’t know your back story, but I am sorry that you are going through the struggle with a tumor. As a retired RN, I have worked with patients going through similar circumstances and know that it is a lot to deal with. That written, I really enjoyed your post. It was like reading a post from myself twenty years ago! I was single and looking for “something more”. Like you wrote, “before you can love someone else, you must first love yourself. After all, how can you give someone something if you don't have it for yourself to begin with?” I also wanted to encourage you to keep up the positive attitude. It means a lot for people like me who are suffering from depression to read your encouraging words.