How do you stay consistent with yourself?

[Questioning123]

I don’t know if I’m trying or barely even trying but i want to stay consistent with myself, i want to stick to my word. for example I told myself I’m not going allow any more disappointment in my life & yet My boyfriend recently just disappointed me & now I’m just overthinking everything & confused about everything. He doesn’t understand me and i can’t blame him for that but it feels like he don’t even try and it’s only so much i can say until I’m just saying the same things over and over. i don’t really have any friends that understand what I make myself go through. i say make myself go through because I’m in control of my life, my decisions and i just keep choosing things and people that doesn’t help me. I can’t say i don’t know why cause i do it’s because i simply don’t want to be alone. So i continue to put up with negative people and allow negative thoughts instead of staying consistent with myself and sticking to my word. Right now I’m battling depression and i refuse to give up on this fight but i feel like depression is about to win. I know what i need to do but I’m afraid to do it all because i don’t want to feel the emptiness of being alone.

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I make small goals that lead into bigger ones. It makes it easier for you.

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I look at it like this, the people in my life need to accept me, it’s not necessary to understand me completely in order to support me.

Is your boyfriend breaking rules of trust, a person that is somewhat toxic in your life that you need to consider walking away from in order to keep your mental health in tact?

Is it possible he loves you his own way? Possible he constantly feels helpless when it comes to your depression? Ask yourself is he trying to disappoint me or hurt me and when you find that answer ask yourself if there are different choices you can make during conversations or arguments that don’t exerbate things in general, small steps to improve communication or work through issues with him, and even tell him you are doing so.

[LiveandLetLive42]

It's hard to control something like disappointment. But, you can stick to your word that if you get disappointed, you wont stand for that. I'm sorry about your situation. All the best!

[Sabio77]

I am glad that you opened up your heart on here. you are never alone on here. May I be honest with you. I really don't like being alone too. yes, sometimes its ok to be alone so we can get things done but other times are tuff. I totally get it. during those moments, try to take deep breaths and focus on something positive. like retraining our mindset from the negative straining draining thought to positive words spoke to yourself or actions. if at all possible walk away to a different room and focus on another thing to do or go. take a shower, read a book, listen to soothing music, get fresh air. these have helped me and hope they will for you too. hugs.

[Questioning123 in reply to Sabio77]

Thank you i wish you the best

[Sabio77 in reply to Questioning123]

thank you. you too.