Fake me

My parent and family only know me as the happy, cheerful, peppy, bright, and ambitious Girl but it was me in elementary school but in truth I have had to deal with many difficult obstacles in life and I tried to avoid telling my parents because they are working hard everyday to support our family. And I try my hardest fake my emotions because my parents are already dealing with enough so I do to want to add to there problems.

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Your parents are stronger than you think. Share your thoughts with them. Parents want the best for their kids. Chances are they may sense things arent right with you. Do them a favor and share your heart with them. They want you to be truly happy.

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Im not sure if my parents would take me seriously because they think it’s just me being sad for a while and I’ll get over it but I will try my best to find a good time to talk to them about it

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Tell them before you say anything that you are serious and expect them to take you seriously. Sometimes Im better at writing out my feelings. Maybe write them a letter is that would be easier.

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Yes I wrote a letter but never gave it to them and was planning on when I should but it never feels right

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Schedule an appointment with them and just go for it. You will be glad you did.

[Blue-eyed]

I can relate to this. I find it difficult to tell my parents the extent of what I’m going through (I even refused to tell them when I was admitted to the hospital) because I was afraid that it would make them more stressed and I didn’t feel like I could handle both my depression and the guilt that I was making their lives more difficult. When I finally did tell them, they got all mopey and i felt even worse.

I’ve realized though, will the help of my therapist, that when we don’t share things with people who care about us it will on the one hand make them even more nervous - because they have thoughts that will try to make sense of what’s going on. And on the other hand they won’t understand that we’re talking about something bigger, and more challenging than just a bad mood that we’ll get over. It’s still a struggle for me, but I recognize now that it makes sense that I get so frustrated because of the way they treat or respond to me - because I never shared what’s really going on or told them what I need. They don’t have the full picture.

When I did share with my brother that I had been self-harming, he shifted from telling me to just choose to be in a good mood. He started telling me that these challenges are too hard for anyone to go through alone and we have to start going through things as a family. It hasn’t really happened yet. But I appreciated the support and didn’t know it was possible.

I hope you’re doing ok! And am here for you if you need

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Thank u it helps me think about when and how I should take this situation