Lonely

[Service_dog_mom]

I'm new here, and I don't share a lot, so I am struggling with this post. I don't trust people because of the things I have been through since I was a child. I want friends, but I am scared to get close to them. Life is so lonely. I'm married for the second time, and he's not a bad guy, but he is always at work. I understand that he is trying to support our family, but outside him, I don't hang out with people. Most of the people I know are through him, so there are no friends that I can vent to without them trying to cause problems for us. We communicate well, it's just hard when he is the only real friend I have. We have also been through some rough times, so I don't trust him. Once my trust is broken I normally don't trust people again. I know this isn't healthy and I am working on getting better. I see a therapist on a regular basis. This is kind of ridiculous that a woman, that is almost 40, can't make friends. I guess this post is about looking for support.

[Orangeblossom85]

Hello! Congratulations on writing this post. It’s a huge step!!! Welcome to community this place kept me from falling not once! I hope you will find many fiends here. I’m also a Weimaraner mum. He is my whole heart and great support

[Service_dog_mom in reply to Orangeblossom85]

Thank you for replying to my post and welcoming me to the community. My boy is my life. He helps me get out in public.

[Gh0st]

There is nothing ridiculous in what you are saying, thats why you are attending therapy. Trusting people is a bet, just like relationships, you control your actions but others own theirs, you should not be so hard on people, of course there are cases that are better to discard but we all make mistakes, the important thing about mistakes is if we learn from it and prevent it from happening again. If you do not trust your partner it is a big problem, in the end it is your travel companion and it is the one that should be there for when you need it, try to lower your guard a little, step by step, without hurry, and give yourself the opportunity to teach people who you really are and what they can contribute in your life, surely there will be disappointments but there will also be successes, I am sure of that, stay with the successes and those who do not contribute anything good to your life just leave them on the road .

[ameliachristine]

Hi buddy 👋

Well, I I hear you and I am on my second marriage as well. I'm lonely too I'm lonely pretty much all of the time. Even though my husband and I are very close and are the best of friends. I am still lonely.

The best advice I can come up with for you is to keep coming here to open up and also to get involved in your community. In any way that makes sense to you. I got involved with a literacy program because I really believe that being fully literate is an important part of being a functional human being in today's society, but there are many organizations that are looking for volunteers all the time for anything and everything. I really encourage you to check it out.

I am also a woman in my early 40s who is looking for friends, and it feels weird to be doing that at this age, but I am, and if you would like to be friends so would I.

Write me back and let me know if you feel like chatting some more and I hope you're having a great day.

Amelia

[Service_dog_mom in reply to ameliachristine]

Thank you. I appreciate the advice. It is hard with only having one car, but I will look into getting more involved with the local community. I'm hoping to start going to a support group.