Am sorry u having a rough time sorry about your dad

I know all about depression the best thing u can do for your husband is to just be there for him because depression plays games with our head look up bignoknow on YouTube he have done helpful information

Hiya, so sorry to hear about your difficulties. I do think you need to look after yourself, your own physical and mental well being and to show yourself kindness and compassion. You will then be in a better place to support your husband (if that is indeed what he wants) and your dad but, more importantly, you will be better able to support yourself. Your own needs and hopes and wishes deserve to be nutured and respected. Take care,

I am so sorry to hear this, it must be so so difficult for you. You need to remember that you need your support too.. I completely agree with Sebastian58 on this.

Maybe your husband should try counselling so you can almost share the problem rather than him putting all of the pressure on you to be there for him.

Loosing people you care about deeply can be beyond your control and is very difficult to endure to the point that it's likened to cocaine withdrawal. Sebastian58 is right. The best thing you can do is take care of yourself. Eat right, excercise and get enough sleep, to get that good chemistry in the brain so as to prevent negative thoughts. But if you do get them, learn how to challenge them. There is a future that suites you, one that you can take control of, and build for yourself. Clear your head of the negative thoughts so that you can plan for your future. You so much deserve everything that life has to offer xx

Hi there my friend. I hate to assume, but is your hubby a drinkin' man?

And, if so, is it more than just a couple?

Sorry to seem intrusive, but my response may be different if he's a drinker.

I am really sorry you are going through this hell.

Hi and welcome to the group ,you are definately having a rough patch just now ! Whilst your husbands been diagnosed with depression have you asked if you can both councilling for his depression to better understand whats driving his depression ! I think you maybe should seek counseling to see if that maybe help matters ! You are being so strong and i believe youve got the strength to help your husband beat this take care and all the best !

My first comment would be therapy (including marriage counseling if you are not doing it together and medication) but it seems you have already started those steps, so kudos to you. Sometimes the hardest part is admitting depression, this is exceptionally true for a man who society tells them they are supposed to be rocks. The truth is we as men are humans and get depressed, but having someone to fight along/help makes a huge difference even if you don't see it. As a man we sometimes are not good at revealing our emotions so try not to force but nut let the therapist/counselor coax out those feelings, this prevents you from being perceived as "naggy" or interfering though you are only trying your best to help. I think during counseling it is important to let your partner know that their mental health affects yours due to worry because you care so much, and that he truly has people who are there and care for him. Also remember to take care of your own mental health, the stress of helping others can be extremely hard to bear, so you may need to seek some private therapy for yourself to help you with this situation.

All the best,

Ice9

I’m reading all of these comments with tears in my eyes. Thank you all so much!! Just having someone to listen and being able to get MY feelings out there, helps. I feel like I have to be strong all the time. For everyone. So I find I’m withdrawing from everyone for fear of breaking down in front of them. I know the things I need to be doing and I try but I’m obviously struggling myself. Today’s been a little better so I’ll count my blessings and hope for another good one tomorrow. Thank you all again. I definitely need to be here.

I hear you and the struggles you’re going through. You are not alone, don’t give up. I understand what it is to feel low, it can be really hard, as if being stuck. Glad you joined and are reaching out. Sending you a GIANT hug.