Be it friend or family, it all hurts and makes me feel terrible, even though they don't mean it as anything bad. After all it's perfectly ok and also healthy to not say yes to everything. Still.
I rarely ask for a favor or anything, usually just try to make everything on my own. And this terrible feeling is one of the reasons. And it really annoys me that I feel like that. Because I KNOW I'm in the wrong. They all do it right. You can't say yes to everything, that's stupid. Actually, I am the one who should say 'No' way more often.
I am almost afraid of hearing 'no', or 'sorry I can't' or any version of denial, no matter how reasonable, or how nicely said. I take it personally.
For example, when I was 16, I asked my mother if she could drive me to a friend and later pick me up, and she, not in a mean way, told me that I am not a lil kid anymore and that I could please try to make it some other way, too. I did, took a bus, it was easy. But, I am 30 now and I haved asked my mother maybe 1 or 2 more times if she could come pick me up or something, just because of that time. Really only if there was no other way. I'd rather walk an hour home through the cold or wait over an hour for a bus. Even though I know she will do it if she has time. Even though my sisters have no qualms about making her drive a detour to pick them up whenever.
I just can't ask for favors or anything, because a 'No' hunts me for years to come.
Of course there are more things hunting me than just a no but today, that one bothers me enough to ask you guys if I am the only one feeling like that?
Thank you for listening