ALL ALONE. NOW WHAT?

[Amelua]

Here again with my depression and anxiety, but now another issue has just made things harder. LONELINESS! For I have nobody, no friends, family, or companions. The only person that sometimes made me feel a little better, has just been admitted into a mental health clinic himself. He's a 12 year old child, my only companion that keeps me company, and makes me feel like I have someone to live for. And now with him gone for a while, what's next? How does one kill boredom, loneliness, worries, and stresses, and the hardship of decision making for someone who I need daily, but now don't have. When do we, the depressed, need these hardships to come onto us? How do we get rid of them, and how can DEATH unto me, not be the cure for my hardship alone?

[Anxiouslisa]

I'm sorry. Loneliness is hard. I'm an empty nester who misses my boys so much. They helped me take my mind off my anxiety and depression when they were home. Now I'm left w a husband I barely know cuz we spent out whole life w our boys, and a job I hate. I have no other family and loneliness is so difficult. I don't have answers for you, but know you are not alone in the struggle.

[Mary-intussuception]

Are you able to visit the 12 year old by in hospital?

[Amelua in reply to Mary-intussuception]

Yes, I do go visit him. But it's hard to have to leave him behind each time, and come back to that lonesome empty home, each time.

[Mary-intussuception in reply to Amelua]

It must be really hard for you, coming back to that empty home. He must really look forward to your visits though. Are you all he has?

Do you have a Church or Chapel nearby? Would you consider asking the Minister / Pastor to visit you. You could talk through your feelings with him /her? They may be able to offer you some support?

[hypercat54]

Can you get out and about and make yourself some new friends? Or is that a problem? We aren't meant to be alone 24/7 as we are social creatures. x

[Amelua in reply to hypercat54]

Honestly, it is very hard for me to make new friendships. I'm social phobic, and a few other health problems lead to not making friends very easily, unless we can really relate or understand one another. Thanks for your time.

[hypercat54 in reply to Amelua]

Well how about counselling for your social phobia? That might help. I taught myself the skill of making friends many years ago and have never been friendless since thank goodness. x

[Amelua in reply to hypercat54]

Thank you for this response. I'll ask my therapist that very same question.

[All_alone in reply to hypercat54]

I would like to hear more about how you taught yourself that skill.

[Jimdubu]

I , am sorry for what you are going through, Loneliness, depression and anxiety are not three thins we want to be alone with. They lie and try to convince of things that are just not true. Do you have any friends that you correspond with or siblings or even as some one else pointed out your church pastor. Also please if you find yourself in crisis and want to harm yourself please call 911, or if your not in the United Stated whatever your emergency # is. Also there is a crisis text line just text hello to 741741 and a professional counselor will text you back. And of course The National Suicide Prevention Line 1-800-273- TALK (8255). There are people that care about you and love you. What has helped me is to write down all my blessings, no matter how small. Then I look at my list and realize how richly blessed I truly am. I don't know where you are spiritually, but know this Jesus loves you, and he is only a prayer away.

bit.ly/2yc8nk5 here is some information about ways to help with depression. Prayers my friend.