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I am new here. I have been on anti- depressants for 20 years. During that time, I have been to counseling. It did seem to help. Thee have been many huge obstacles that I have overcome, and am thankful that I was able to do that. I have been divorced twice. My last husband took all of my retirement money so I basically now live on my social security. Backtrack, my brother and sister-in-law moved to another state and wanted me to move in with them. We were to all retire and live happy. My brother is an alcoholic as both of my parents were too. He got upset with me and wants me out of his house. I will be 65 this year and will need to find a job and work for the rest of my life as well as find a place to move. Most of my furniture was given away so I will have to start again. I have limited income, and it hurts me that my own family do not show any concern. My sister-in-law says if I move away, I am hurting myself. I think I am protecting myself. How will holidays be when my brother does not speak to me at all. I live in my bedroom with my 2 dogs for the most part. I do this to try and think what to do. There is not any compassion from the family here and I am having difficulty with this. My depression has increased and I am not sure why other than I realize now that for my entire life, I have not had one person that could emotionally support me. I feel so alone. I could not have children so that has created a void in my life. I have read others posts and totally understand what they are feeling. My doctor just gave me more anti-depressants to take and asked me to go to Al-Anon. I went to one session and will continue to go. I am not sure this is right for me. I hope to get some help as I do not like what I am going thru.

Thank- you

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Yes Al Anon is great and there is also adult children of alcoholics and they have phone meetings, and in person you can also go to for extra support.

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Thank you

I am trying to find some support that I can talk to about one in one

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Lakewolf in reply toBogartTilly

You got it.

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techguy

Hi I’ve suffered from depression anxiety on and off for years I just recently went through another bout of both of those and someone Hi I’ve suffered from depression anxiety on and off for years I just recently went through another bout of both of those and someone turning onto acupuncture I had five treatments and at the end of five treatments depression and Zaidi will completely gone before going I checked with the acupuncturist if they had treated people with depression anxiety she said yes that would be my best recommendation onto acupuncture I had five treatments and at the end of five treatments depression and Zaidi will completely gone before going I checked with the acupuncturist if they had treated people with depression anxiety she said yes that would be my best recommendation

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BogartTilly in reply totechguy

Thank you

I never thought of that and I studied Chinese traditional medicine

Goes to show you where my brain is not

I will investigate this!

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techguy in reply toBogartTilly

If you wouldn’t mind let me know your results I hope it works for you as it did for me

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BogartTilly in reply totechguy

I will

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Lakewolf in reply toBogartTilly

I am a certified Reiki II channel.

Thought it was New Age nonsense until I had an experience with it that changed my life forever.

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Sprinkle1

Oh, You poor soul, my heart goes out to you, I can relate to you as so much of my life runs parallel to yours. Find All the help you can, contact Salvation Army, they help people. Contact a Social worker in your area. Look in the front of your phone book, there are a lot of services listed there. United Way helps people. Go online and search out free support groups, therapists who work on a sliding fee scale, you need support. And of course we are here for you. I wanted to cry when I read your post, I want to offer you comfort and support, I have a good idea of the horrible position you are in, I too feel lonely and need support and to help others if I can. Do not listen to your sick family, listen to your own inner voice it will not let you down. Are you a church person, some churches offer help. I have one son but he was in a bad accident at age 22 and is a quad, and there will be no grand children, he does not live with me, he is in England. I do have my own house, but no friends, and my two lovely cats. I am crippled with anxiety, I was poisoned by an inept nurse practitioner who overloaded me on a number of powerful antidepressants. I now have a psychiatrist, he has me on 3 drugs, one for anxiety and muscle relaxant and 2 antidepressants, and will not give me any thing else, we have to get the other drugs out of my brain and that will take months. I am afraid to drive, cannot watch much TV, read my books, cook, do not get hungry, food tastes awful. So as you can see I am like you in an awful situation, but if I can help you I would be glad to. I will close by sending your Love, Hope and Peace. Sprinkle 1 xx

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BogartTilly in reply toSprinkle1

Thank you so much for your kind words of support

I always went thru life knowing there were other people in worse shape than me but I think now getting older I realize that I have never had anyone really care about me

I have always been a caretaker and the caretaker always has to be strong no matter what

Now that I am not , I am banished because they don’t care!

I go to church and pray everyday

I thank you for your support and hope you will find the strength in good time to get stronger also

Never give up hope

Peace will come to you

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bigMac77

Yip all to similar to me no one left who gives a dam about me, if one brother left who's that wrapped in his family and how much amazing money he's earning while working abroad in Denmark with a few weeks back home here and there to see his partner and his son...while I'm just waiting to die 😀 hope things get better for you op...im 41 now and my life's over i welcome death now.

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BogartTilly in reply tobigMac77

I also wanted death to come as I felt there was nothing left for me to do

However, I will look into volunteering abroad with a group perhaps and help others out and not think of my family

I feel your pain

I pray for hope and peace for you

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gogogirl

Can you sue your last husband- he has no right to your retirement money- you worked for that!

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BogartTilly in reply togogogirl

No he has no money to sue

I got stuck with back taxes that he did not pay with penalties for income tax too

He is not a good person at all for how he has left me

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gogogirl in reply toBogartTilly

I hope you can seek out another legal counsel- that does not sound right at all that you should have to pay his penalties. Too many women and men get cheated when a person of bad character does not take responsibility. If he doesn't have money or assets , I say he needs to get some in order to pay you back! He's an adult not a child, right? Be kind to yourself- you have rights!

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BogartTilly

Yes I have rights and was stupid

He was convicted of fraud and was to serve time in prison but got out of it😞

He is very ill as I understand

He has also alienated what friends or partners he has

There will not be any chance of getting it back

I would have tried if I thought I would get it back

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gogogirl

He got out of it????? Always better to try- prison, sickness or no sickness. You are talking about how he has alienated his friends etc- I hope you are not going soft. Too many women -( and I once heard of one who forfeited child support because she "felt sorry" for her lowlife ex. They are both deceased. It only takes one legal counsel with the right angle to be on your side. I am sure you have seething anger, and I do not blame you.

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BogartTilly in reply togogogirl

You bet I am seething with anger

This situation would have been better if I still had my retirement money

I did not get soft- he knows how to work the system

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gogogirl in reply toBogartTilly

If it's a pension- you would still get that as you know not him just like SS. If it's investments, savings etc- well I don't know. He has been convicted of fraud- I hope that you find a nice, go get em young lawyer- I don't know about legal aid who would love to put someone like that back behind bars and get your money. Good luck to you- you deserve to live a better life. I do not know what country you live in- but I believe in most states in the USA ( I am not in the legal field) when people are sentenced to go to prison they serve time and might get credit for time served depending on the judge) . This is a new one- was to go to prison and got out of it. I hope you can make an appointment with the judge if you have not done so already- who cares if this monster is sick? Fraud as we know is very serious and it has caused you a great loss.

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BogartTilly in reply togogogirl

I could not believe he got out of it either

I live in the USA

I will look further into this and see what can happen

Thank you for your support and advice

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gogogirl

I am in the USA also- I wish you all the luck in the world- as you say you have rights and he is a criminal! Think about all of the people who were hurt when the banksters crashed the economy- you go girl- you sound like a nice intelligent person and we are close to the same age bracket- remember that song "Back in the saddle again"

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gogogirl in reply togogogirl

Please let me know how you are doing!

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BogartTilly in reply togogogirl

LOL

Thank you again

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gogogirl

And right back at ya. Thanks for being here.

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