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[StayPositive333]

I'm older, retired... well actually I walked off my job due to stress. Weaned myself off a benzo I took "as prescribed" after 6 yrs. I was in tolerance from the med and was worse the before ever taking it. Found later they're only to be taken 2-3 weeks. Well, I've been in a long term depression and though I know I need to eat healthy and push myself to be active I have No accountability so I sit in my chair + eat carbs and sugar. It seems good at the time but I'm disgusted in myself. Every Intention to push myself the next day but its always the next day. Just venting... i need to take control but im weak. Need Accountability

[Pastelpurple]

Hello I’m younger but I feel the same at times, maybe instead of thinking of the situation as a whole view it in pieces, for example instead of thinking of a whole work out sesh, maybe just take a walk at the park or a hike be with nature, a walk at the beach, disconnect. You could also write down a planned work out, u won’t necessarily have to do it that day but u can give ur self credit for thinking about doing something for urself (:. Maybe find a hobby, take interest in things you’ve never done hope this helps. Remember You matter

[StayPositive333 in reply to Pastelpurple]

You May be right. Thinking on the whole view is draining. I'll try to just plan something small each day. Maybe if I write what I've done each day it will push me to do even more. Thank you

[Lovely_Lizzy_]

Well I think we al go through that intact I’m still trying to eat healthy Haha..... I am a teen so for a while I tried starving..... one cause I didn’t have time and two cause I just wanted to be skinnier. And I would never do sports in the past.... u just gotta keep trying... and ya know what... I had a friend push me to join vollyball so that’s what u did and now I am more active that I ever was! You just need some people who care enough to push u to be better.... and I’ll tell u if that’s what u came here for u came to the right place.... these are great people

[StayPositive333 in reply to Lovely_Lizzy_]

Pushing is what I need. I've talked with my husband about it but don't want him to push me or I'll get mad. He has physical health probs and doesn't do anything which gives me the ok to do nothing. My friends all still work or live far. I'll try to keep listening here and focus on getting things done. Thanks for replying!

[Dolphin14]

Great job on getting off the benzo it's not easy.

My thought is we have to be accountable to ourself if no one else is around.

Make yourself get up out of that chair. Mayb get some things done around the house? Get outside for some fresh air?

Give yourself a task each day and get it done.

As far as food goes, you just can't bring it into the house. It's so easy to eat when it's right there.

Give yourself a nudge. You can do this.

[StayPositive333 in reply to Dolphin14]

Thanks Dolphin, I just need to hear those words more often. The benzo and symptoms coming off put me in this situation. I know the only way to get out of my funk is to do... think I'll keep a daily list of accomplishments.. maybe i can lengthen it daily... thanks for the nudge!

[Agora1 in reply to StayPositive333]

Hi StayPositive congratulations on coming off benzos. I have been off them for

7 years now after having been on them daily for 30 years. I was left on this small dose

which no longer worked and became a habit of taking it once a day as you would a

vitamin. It took me 2 years to wean off it and another year and a half to slowly wind

down from the symptoms as my brain started to heal and I adjusted to my brain

making the "good feeling" chemicals naturally.

Find a reason everyday to go forward and look forward to what life has waiting for you.

We must motivate ourselves, after all what we think is what we get. Remember that all

of the steps we take in life are for a reason. We learn from our experiences, now it's

time for you to reap in the benefits of what you've learned. Life is Good xx

[StayPositive333 in reply to Agora1]

Thanks Dolphin, I've been off 2 1/2 yrs but can't seem to get or of this depression. I know i am my only hope so i guess i came here so i could write it down, get some pushing and push myself.

Got things accomplished today.. YAY.. I'm logging all I do down to help motivate me for the next day. Trying to push through this mess. Thanks for the advice and for understanding!

[Sabio77]

staypositive333, nice to meet you. many people encounter depression. you are not alone. I personally have overcome deep depression 3 times. it is a process but it is definitely doable. it can be done at any age. here is something to think about, when the urge to seek out comfort foods, start taking control over your thoughts. counteract it with something positive at that very moment. if you have the urge to eat, grab a snack that is better for you. also, you can't eat it if you don't buy it. besides, those comfort foods actually are not comfort foods, it makes our bodies feel worse afterwards. Also, try talking to an trained professional on what you can do. Believe in yourself. it makes a difference. focus on one moment at a time of just today, right now. not the big picture if it is overwhelming for you at that moment. Hugs.