I'm new here..

[cassgrace]

I have no friends, I feel that I push people away with all of the stress and problems I have. I feel like eventually it overwhelms the person I have a relation/friendship with and then I'm left with no one, and I hate being alone... it gives me more anxiety than I already have really. Ever since I was a baby I couldn't stand being by myself... but it seems that I push most people away.. and then I'm stuck with being alone... I only ever needed and wanted to feel loved, but everyone seems to give up on me. I really just need and want a happy loving friendship or relationship but for some odd reason I can't find any.. my self esteem is very low.. i feel like i ruin everything and it never stops.

[Hidden]

I’m sorry you feel like that ... but welcome here! You’re never alone here and everyone is so caring and kind and always here to lend a 👂 xx

[cassgrace in reply to Hidden]

thats what i was hoping for.. i hope it helps.. thank you <3

[gerg]

Welcome! You have friends here.

[Olinick]

You have friends here and won't have to feel alone anymore.

[YoungSimba]

Hi cassgrace

I understand completely what you are going through. And as everyone else said. This is a great place for you to not feel alone. I know we aren’t physically there but trust me we are friends that understand

[cassgrace in reply to YoungSimba]

thank you very much

[EmLee96]

when you are with others, is that all you talk about- your stress and problems? if so, that is probably why you feel like you are pushing them away, because you are. Others can only take so much of your stress and problems. its like they can only soak up and listen to so much until it starts to affect them, and then they need to protect themselves. i really don't think anyone gives up on anyone- either they don't know how to help or they don't know what else to say to help you.

are you doing anything to help yourself? medicine? therapy?

[cassgrace in reply to EmLee96]

yes.. i'm on medication, i just started seeing a therapist. for some reason, i'm still not happy. i don't even like to get out of bed in the morning, i can't eat, i can't focus on TV, i'm just sad. I think it may be because of the relationship i just got out of though... but i was like that before.. so i don't know if that's the problem... or if it's me. I'm lost, confused, sad, and I feel very alone.

[EmLee96 in reply to cassgrace]

therapy and medication is not a quick fix. it can take anywhere from a month to years... or unfortunately some never recover to come of medication or therapy (their brains just don't produce enough seratonin and other important hormones). listen to what your therapist tells you- take charge of your life and try to find things that help yourself. you can google something like "techniques to help prevent anxiety attacks" or "ways to calm oneself" stuff like that and come up with more ideas!

[Dogs2018]

I am lonely also and looking for people to chat with. Is there and online chat here?

[Hidden]

Hello. So sorry to hear about the difficulties you are facing. As EmLee points out there may not be a 'quick fix', it's a gradual process, but you have already taken several steps in the right direction, so please keep going. Certainly, the medication can take several weeks/months to take full effect and it is important that the doctor finds the right medication (or combination of medications) and the right dose to fit your particular circumstances. I think you will find that most of the posters here are dealing with difficult situations of varying degrees, so there is a wealth of knowledge and experience here, and also support and empathy. We all need to help each other and, yes, although in life it is inevitable we will all at some point face real problems, there can be a positive outcome and better times ahead, so please remain hopeful and show yourself lots and lots of compassion. Take care,

[SebastianMax]

You've got it backwards Cassgrace. You're trying to change your external reality(where you live, your friends, your loved ones, your job, trying to develop friendships with other people) to change your internal reality(the way that you're feeling and how you're perceiving the world, your relationship with yourself). But this won't work. You have to do it the other way around, you need to develop a better relationship with yourself first(that's why you feel bad when you're "alone"), work on your inner beliefs that are affecting the way that you're perceiving the world(this is what makes you feel bad), learn to manage your thoughts and your feelings instead of trying to feel better by "dumping" all of your stress on your loved ones. Be aware that when you focus on your problems, your body will generate stress for you to do something about it, and if you keep trying to get rid of your stress on one hand and you're still generating it on the other, you're like a constant source of stress which will make others feel bad when they're around you(and people will remember you by how you make then feel, so if they start thinking about you and they remember how you always focus on bad things, how you're always stressed and how they absorb your stress for you to feel better temporarily, they will start avoiding you not because they're bad, but because they don't like to feel bad all the time, just like you don't like being stressed and you're trying to do something about it).

[jtsh1995]

All I can say is that it will get better - sounds cliche but it is the truth. You will find a way that works for you to get through this; it takes time but it WILL happen! And you won't be doing it alone, you will have all of our support to do so.

We are all here for you and you can vent as much as you like to us! xx

[akablonded]

You can always come here. We're all trying to cope with our ups and downs, day by day, hour by hour. Come and talk as much as you want. There will be someone to listen.

[Hidden]

God, I'm with you there. Nothing worse than feeling so alone with what's going on, it's like people don't want you unless you're happy.

[unknown22002]

i can understand u coz i myself gone to this shit.......it was hard but in the end u will find a true frnd...coz god has send u a best frnd n we have to find that person.....he/she might be lost in the fake frnds so find them n pull them out of the crowd...

[AMIGOMAN]

Hi !!!!!

I hope you are well.

If u ever feel like talking,

Please don't hesitate to contact me.

LOVE.......... Amigoman XxX

[Hidden]

I know exactly how you feel, if you ever need someone to talk to or even just a friend, I’d be glad to help.

[AMIGOMAN]

U are very welcome x x

Look after yourself Cassgrace 🌹