Feeling depressed when I talk to him...

[Ubud2021]

I’ve been doing a lot better. I’ve been seeing a lot of happy moments in my days lately. Until I talked to him. I feel sad. It’s only been a week, but it feels like a lifetime. Depression is funny like that... but I don’t know how to break it off without him begging for me to stay. It’s my ex. Ha, silly me....”needing” comfort when I’m working on myself... but I just get too sad.... I miss my happiness when I wake up in the mornings. What’s a nice way to break things off with guys?? Suggestions?? I just can’t do this anymore...

[Hidden]

Hi Hecate930:

If you feel depressed talking to him you really need to talk to him less and take care of yourself first. With your emotion building up from him is not good and they will get worse as time goes on if you continue talking to him.

Keep those happy moments with you always and don’t pick up the phone if you know it will make you depressed. Rather let him leave a message and if you want to then listen to it. It will take the happiness away again though. Remember you are in control here and you call the shots.

Happiness is the key of life. When confusion, doubt, or even guilt take place put them all aside and stick with the happiness. Positivity is what we all should live with in having a great life. 😊

[Ubud2021 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you (:

[stephy82]

I know it is easier said than done but you need to do all you can to distance yourself from him. Also it is good to channel and deal with the feelings and emotions you have about him and the relationship, because as long as those feelings are lingering around, you will have a reason to seek him for closure or to try and understand or whatever. Do you listen to music? If yes, find maybe your favorite artist's break up or moving on songs. As you listen to the lyrics, let your feelings flow and deal with them (this will be over the course of some time, not just one or a few times). Take care of you and try to heal first, you deserve to be whole and happy ❤

[Esther228]

Hi Hecate930, it is so good to read that you feel better. It feels good to feel good, huh! Relationships are sure a lot of work. Right! Have you thought about the feelings behind “why” you want to break off the relationship? Or have you considered maybe working through your problems together? I sure hope that you continue to have more happy moments in life!

[NCAQuilter]

In my experience, ex's that 'beg' their ex's to come back lay down a lot of guilt. As someone who is depressed, you need to stay away. At least until you learn techniques to deal with him. Even if you are considering getting back together, you need space to come to your own decision without him barging in. Something to consider is that you feel good until you talk to him. Are you calmer without him constantly in the picture? Don't let his guilt tripping force you back. Make the decision for what is best for YOU, not what will make him happy.

It is wonderful to hear you have such happy moments. Keep it up!