What do I do - afraid to be alone

[BlueAurora]

Some back ground. I suffer from anxiety, depression, and panic disorders a lot with cycling moods.

My husband is leaving in a week to go to his home country for a week and I’m freaking out. He is the only person I have and he makes me feel safe. I’ve been in nonstop panic mode. I can barely function. I’m on a negative cycle loop in my head. I just need to be with him. It’s almost like an obsession. I just feel safe with him and I don’t feel like I’m dying as much like when I’m having a panic attack.

I just need some advice/support because I feel crazy, alone, and like no one else is having the same issue or truly understands.

Thanks in advance.

[Patches2456]

I completely understand feeling crazy and alone. You are not alone though. You can get through it. I believe in you.

[BlueAurora in reply to Patches2456]

Thank you for taking the time out to write that. I needed it. ☺️

[Sprinkle1]

Please try to get a hold of yourself. How long have you had these infliction's,?

Have you talked to your Dr. there is help for you. Do you have family who will help you? Your husband will only be gone a week, that is not very long really, do you have a job to go to? We will help you if we can, but we need more information, write to us and see what we can do for you. I am pulling for you and send you strength. Sprinkle 1......

[BlueAurora in reply to Sprinkle1]

I have a family member that will stay with me but they don’t really understand mental health. And it wouldn’t matter really because I just want to be with him so much. He’s helped me through a lot when it comes to my panic attacks and I’m scared I’ll break down when he leaves and I won’t have him ya know?

I do see a therapist and she thinks it’s good exposure therapy for me to be away from him for a short while because she says maybe once I see I can do it this “needing” him may lessen.

I know it’ll only be a week but I’m still dreading it because my anxiety/panic is the worst it’s ever been and I just don’t want to be without him.

I do have a job but it’s hard to get anything done because I’m panicking so much.

I hope that helped answer some questions.

Thank you for your response.

[RedwineFL in reply to BlueAurora]

Is there anything that you can do for the week that can occupy your mind? Catch up on a favorite show or maybe grab a best seller book? I’ve learned that when I get into my mood swings and depression slumps, that it’s best to occupy my mind with something that keeps my mind of negativity and a bad feeling. Binge watch a show, maybe even catch up with an old friend and go grab lunch or a movie. Post here while he’s away and we can try to keep your mind off things. Also can you whatsapp your hubby while he’s away? Hopefully you can see and speak to him so you won’t feel as alone. Good luck.

[BlueAurora in reply to RedwineFL]

Thank your for your reply. These are all great suggestions.

[Sprinkle1 in reply to BlueAurora]

Hello, I am glad you are going to therapy, when I was in therapy I learnt there are only 4 things we Need. Food, Water, clothing and shelter, all the rest is icing on the cake. We do not need a person, nice to have I'll grant you that if it is a healthy relationship. Keep being good to yourself. Yes I understand most people to not understand Mental Health, but there is help, take medication if you need it, I do not like to take pills, but gladly swallow my pills each day (I am only on 4). Keep busy and the week will go by quicker than you would imagine, do not count the days, only the good things you are doing for yourself. Read, watch good TV, go out with friends to lunch, dinner, a show, spoil yourself you deserve it. Take long walks either by yourself or with someone else, good therapy and the exercise helps the neurotransmitters to fire off correctly. So be proud of who you and build your strength, so your husband can come home to a healthy wife who is not "needy". By the way needy gets old, and can ruin relationships.

Keep going young lady, you can do it. I send you love and strength, Sprinkle

[BlueAurora in reply to Sprinkle1]

Thank you for commenting.

[Bee1232 in reply to BlueAurora]

I think it is good therapy... so you break down.... so what...! I’m saying that in metaphors way... I understand it’s very scary but what’s going to happen.. your going to have a panic attack... then what? Your human instinct is going to kick in and you will be fine you will pick urself up and be there when he gets home and u will feel stronger than ever because you did it!! It will be ok!! I hope that didn’t sound harsh I was just trying to make you see it’s mind over matter. I can say this because I deal with very bad anxiety and depression I know where your coming from. Except my rocks were my kids, they grew up and left I was forced to fall but I’m still here. Take care you can do it! Deep down inside you know this!

[katcom]

Maybe Skype can be helpful? It might reduce your panic when you talk to him by means of instant video chat.

[hypercat54]

I must admit I agree with your therapist. I know it won't be easy but facing our fears lessens them and achieving it gives us a boost to our self esteem. Nothing worthwhile is ever easy don't forget. Once you face up to these fears then it will be easier to face up to others. x

[Zhangliqun]

Are there other things -- music, pictures, places, a teddy bear, etc -- that calm you?