very very gloomy

[ela03]

my boyfriend has helped me so much this past year with my depression; he made me feel so cared for and happy and like I had a reason to keep going. he's in the military and he just left a few days ago and I have no way of contacting him for a few months. I'm just really sad because I haven't been on my own in a while and its a little hard to transition back into that. I want to be independent though, I don't want to feel like I NEED him to make me happy (even though I love him so much and def don't wanna live without him). Sad day for a sad girl

[Hidden]

Hi ela03

Dealing with depression I understand what you feel. Your boyfriend is an amazing person and has shown you how much he cares about you. I understand how you feel following his departure. It’s completely different from what you are used to. Adjusting to it may take time. I know what you are feeling. Especially when it is from six to nine months, depending which branch they serve in. Being unable to communicate with him isn’t easy either. Yet, remember he will be back, he is thinking about you, and is looking forward to that very day to when he returns. Just as much as you are. You are an amazing person to him. Always remember that. 😊

[ela03 in reply to Hidden]

thank you, I appreciate that! it actually helps a lot.. did you mean that your significant other was also in the military??

[Hidden in reply to ela03]

It was do to being in a military family since day one. It was never easy for me. Especially when the time apart was up to a year. I hung in there though. 👍🏻

[Hidden]

I.understand the sadness of a loved one being away, even those who don't feel dependent or de pressed at all will feel utterly lost and sad when a partner leaves. You re allowed to feel sad. In terms of being strong, independent and productive and working on your coping skillsand self esteem and on your depression are there any projects you thought you might undertake? A little schedule on your wall marking days even if you have olanned quiet days might be a good idea for filling your time constructively and feeling anchored to the days as they pass?

[ela03 in reply to Hidden]

yeah, I've been trying to keep myself busy. I'm a full time student with finals coming up, I'm on a dance team with a performance this weekend, and I just had a job interview today. Today I feel somewhat better than yesterday, I guess its just taking time to get used to it

[beautyoutofashes54]

ela03 it is great that you have a wonderful man. However, you are correct, you don’t need someone to be happy and I believe that is a very important life growing step. We all need to learn to be happy with ourselves and what we do and accomplish. I believe having something that your interested in and can spend time doing helps one feel good about themselves. While having a person along side you is a bonus to a positive life. Is there anything you like to do, write, make cards or crafts, paint? Find something to get interested in and I will bet you will begin to feel better about you. beautyoutofashes54