I’m scared because I thought out a plan for just in case. I really couldn’t do it to my family, just leave like that it’s toooo horrible but I can’t stop thinking it would be in case for the future if things come down to it and I know I have to stay but I need to know there’s that out if needed I think. I feel so guilty about it. My husband just disrespected me in a huge way on top of struggling with anxiety and I feel so sad and like he’s a stranger like he’s just not good for me right now. I don’t know how I can be around him well for now I’m staying to myself but it’s 😞 so sad. How can he love me when he hurts me so I can’t even talk about what happened here.
Very sad and feeling darkness - Anxiety and Depre...
Do you see a psychiatrist or a therapist? If so you should call tomorrow and get an appointment. If not, you should start ASAP. You have a lot of people who care for you on here (me for one) and it breaks my heart that a friend like you is suffering so. Stick around and stay in touch please. I hope you start feeling better soon.
Star light, star bright. 😔💫✨🙏🏼 Please forget the plan. Forget everything you thought. I’m really worried about you. I hope you’re okay. Please keep fighting. I love you. I’m here if you need me. Xoxoxoxo
It is really hard when our loved ones don't get it. I feel so sorry that your husband doesn't understand. But you say he is a really good guy. So you do have that going for you, and it is really a blessing.
i would encourage you to try couples counseling, again. Just because it didn't come up to expectations the first time isn't an indication it won't work now. Even if he goes but doesn't participate, you both may benefit from the experience. By listening to you talk to the counselor he may understand more about you, and your depression, and that is the point. Maybe he feels that counseling will show him he's wrong and has to change. If that were the case, I wouldn't want to go, either! More often, though, counseling brings understanding. With understanding comes tolerance, and then comes solutions. With him understanding some about your depression, and you understanding some of his anger, the devastating arguments will lessen.
So, go. There is a lot you may gain!
I know things feel bad right now but chances are things will turn around again soon you just got to hold on till the better days come back and they will come back, we are here for you, take care have an awesome day, keep in touch let us know how thing go.
I'm so sorry you're feeling this way right now. These can be such challenging thoughts to experience and work through. On top of this, I'm sorry your husband disrespected you. It can be so hurtful when the person we love the most, hurts us in ways they know attacks us. Have you been able to sit down with him and share how his words and actions hurt you? Have you thought about talking with a counselor together? I often feel having a counselor (like in a marriage and family therapy setting) can greatly help by serving as an equal party. One that can hear both sides without not taking sides.
While you're hurting now, I want you to know you're strong. You're strong for reaching out for help and advice. You're strong for continuing to go on everyday. You're strong for choosing to continue on even when it hurts. YOU ARE AWESOME!
If you'd like to chat privately, I'm here for you.
I have only just found your post.
So sorry you are feeling this way x
I too have had a just in case plan for decades but hope I never ever have to use it and the same goes for you.
I know it’s hard when our husbands seem like they don’t care but I think it’s more they feel helpless and can never fully understand unless they ever experience Depression and Anxiety ( fingers crossed they never do )
I know my hubby loves me to bits ( well he has put up with me for 49 years lol ) but sometimes I feel like you do. When I had a my first experience of the dreaded curse as I call it I found him crying one day as he said he felt so helpless.
I’m here for you as is all your other HU friends (chin up)
I am so sorry...I truly understand the dark place you're in. I'm sorry your husband disrespected you... especially when you are feeling so bad. Do you have anywhere you could go to just get away...family or friends house that understand you need quiet time and peace...kind of a vacation from everyday life? I'm actually trying to figure out a way to do that for my self.
Just remember...the darkness will pass. We can't say when but it will. And you are loved. You know the people who truly love and care for you. Please don't do anything permanent...I know it seems like there's no other relief at times...but you are valued and deserve respect and happiness. You have helped me...a total stranger today...just letting me know I'm not in this battle alone. Hang in there...the light will shine again. Sending love and hope for healing to you. 💜
You are beautiful. And you are so right- it passes... that darkness...today I am struggling a bit with fear from the anxiety but I created and tried out a new exercise regimen and I feel kind of okay.
I am sorry you are in the battle too and thank you for sharing I’m glad we are not alone, my friend.
Bless your dear heart...I'm so happy to hear you've found something that helps you...that is wonderful! I've actually taken up swimming at an indoor pool...and it really helps...but some days I just can't make myself go. I do understand...and thank you for your kind words to me. We will find our way out of this one day. And the light will shine again. Take care of YOU...and keep moving forward my friend. 💜
I know where you are coming from, it’s scary. I’ve planned my own back ups “just in case”. It’s a slippery slope, please reach out. I have a loving husband too, but one that I think doesn’t want to know what is going on so he can pretend it doesn’t exist and all is fine. It feels very, very lonely. Hang in there Starrlight.