Narcissistic husband

[RaeLea]

From the time my husband wakes up to the time he goes to bed he is constantly criticizing and complaining and screaming at me. Everything is my fault of course and he’s ruined my self esteem. I have no friends or family, he got me fired from my job and I’m not allowed to have a car. Every day is a struggle and I never know how he’s going to act. I think about suicide almost every day and it makes me sad.

[AZ1970]

It sounds like you are in an abusive relationship. There are resources to get help. Suicide is not the way out. You can have life apart from him. Be safe. We are here to support you.

[tamka38]

Please get away from him and everything he say about hisself he want to say it about hisself is nothing wrong with u this man have a problem and he’s putting on his B.S. on u whatever u do be safe because you’re in a very unhealthy relationship and if u want to talk me DM because I been through this before and it wasn’t cool

[RaeLea]

I have left him before and stayed with what I thought were friends. They just wanted a 3some with me and kicked me out when I said no. I tried all the shelters but they were full. I have no friends or family to help me. This group is my only support. I got off of Facebook because no one ever talked to me and it was depressing and embarrassing.

[rach1402 in reply to RaeLea]

I think getting off Facebook was a great idea, it's too easy for people like him to keep tabs on you. I know it's easier said than done but you need to leave him for good and don't look back. If you really haven't got anyone to support you, you've got nothing to lose by moving away and starting a new life, a fresh start could be just what you need. If you haven't got anywhere to go or anyone to help you, you'll have to do some research. Ask citizens advice what help is available to you and other practical information like that and don't think about it too much, just get away from him. Good luck x

[aaronm]

Have you looked into women's shelters for victims of domestic violence? Check daily. They'll have openings eventually.

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I'm so sorry. Please, continue to check shelters. Suicide is not the way to go.

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thehotline.org/help/path-to...

this link is to abuse hotlines and help.

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Do you work? If not try to find a job and then put him out the house. Get a lawyer and see what you can do to get financial support from him. I would try to get him to go to marriage counseling with you. If he refuses, file for divorce. Seek alimony payments from him and regain control back of your life. Praying for the best outcome for you. Be well.

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Look up women shelters

[babygirl1952]

IM SO SORRY DEAR I HEAR YOU I HAVE BEEN THERE I HAD A HUSBAND NOW IM IN COURT FOR HIM FOR STALKING CHARGER'S I GO TO COURT ON MONDAY THERE ARE MANY THINGS YOU CAN DO THERE ARE HOTLINES YOU CAN CAN IF HE EVER TOUCHES YOU YOU CAN FILE CHARGERS ON HIM THERE BUT YOU HAVE TO WANT YOU BE SCARED I WAS WHEN THIS HAPPEN TO ME WHEN I TRIED TO CALL FOR HELP BUT YOU HAVE TO BE STRONGER THAN HIM AND BEING IN THIS WILL GIVE HOPE AND FAITH THAT SOMEDAY YOU CAN GOOD LUCK DEAR HUGS SMILES

[weegmack]

This is awful for you, I’m so sorry 😞. I can see that it’s very hard for you to get away, and easy for the rest of us to tell you to get out of there.

However, you can get out of this relationship. It is abusive, he is a terrible person and you deserve better. Remember that you are worthy of happiness and everything he has told you about yourself, is lies.

Please try and keep checking those shelters - you are being mentally abused. Keep trying, please. ❤️

[trapis2]

I'm so sorry for the abuse you have been subjected to. I have no experience with this so hesitate to give any help. Just know you are not what he seems to precieve you are. You do not have to be his punching bag !!! Hugs and hope for a better life....

[babygirl1952]

DEAR YOUR LIFE IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN YOU WILL EVER KNOW I WISH I COULD TO HELP HELP OUT OF THIS SITUATION ALL I CAN IS CHAT WITH YOU EVERY TO HELP YOU RECOVER FROM THE TRENCHES THINGS HE HAS DONE TO YOU HE IS TRYING TO TEAR DOWN YOUR SELF AND ANY LOVE YOU HAD FOR ANYONE ELSE PLEASE TRY TO NOT LET FEED OFF YOUR FEELINGS TRY TO TRY TO STAY AWAY FROM HIM THE BEST YOU CAN OK AND I WILL TEXT YOU IN A LiTTLE AWHILE TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF HUGS

[RaeLea]

Thank you so much for everyone understanding. It’s very easy to tell someone to just leave but obviously it’s not that easy. I really appreciate all of your support and hope that you’ll stick with me as I go through this hell. I’m doing my best to stay in other room and keep myself busy cleaning, reading, praying and meditating. I’m going to apply to a job at Petsmart today because it’s close enough I could walk or ride my bike.

[Hidden in reply to RaeLea]

Stay strong! We're rooting for you

[BlueBelle06 in reply to RaeLea]

I'm sure what you say is true- that its hard to "just leave". I am so sorry you're going through this. I applaud you for trying to stay busy,seeking help here and applying for a job. I do think it sounds like you should start making some emergency plans, contingency plans, slow plans to leave, back up plans....some kind of plans. This situations sounds dangerous for you. I'm very good at researching things online. If you need help working out how to start, send me a chat. I have some social work friends who could give me some advice I could pass on as well.

[babygirl1952]

That's great good for you feathered is hope

[dore13]

I am so sorry you are going through this. I do agree with the other comments. I think you are in an abusive relationship and you need to leave. Do you have any family you can stay with? I know what it is like to be mentally and verbally abused. It is something that can destroy every fiber of your being. I realized something when I left my abusive relationship, that a man who enjoys tormenting someone else, is an insecure, weak, scared ,little boy. I was truly crushed, and am still recovering from the ordeal. I don't think I will look at men or even friends the same. ( I lost all my friends too) As you said, when you get depressed, they ignore you. Either they don't know what to say, or they grow tired of hearing it, or they don't know how to handle it and withdraw. I think it is terrible that there are no shelters for you to go too. Perhaps you can talk to a social worker at a hospital and they can help you find a safe place. I wish you the best.

[RaeLea in reply to dore13]

Thank you so much. I have a prescription for klonapin and I’m starting to use it too much trying to escape his words. He holds everything over my head and thinks he is superior to me. I cry every day and I’m having a hard time deciding if I should stay and struggle through divorce or just kill myself now, save a lot of time and emotion. I have nothing to look forward to and no where to go even if im granted the divorce.

[dore13 in reply to RaeLea]

I have lived with depression my whole life, and one the problems is when you are really depressed, you get tunnel vision. You see no way out. You have given power and control to him, through the abuse you suffer. Don't give him anymore power by thinking about suicide. When he starts yelling or putting you down, you can just walk away, completely ignore him like he doesn't exists. I do think you need to find a shelter or safe place to get out of that situation. I think once you get away from the abuse you will start thinking, and then realize there are options. When I got away, I was heart broken, but then, as I regained my confidence, I got mad and I found my voice and roared like a lion. When I think of him now, he is a pathetic little boy who was not worth a minute of my time. He was beneath me, and still is! I also hope you are seeing a therapist, or social worker.

[babygirl1952]

How Are You Doing today I hope you have the world in your hand and you have a job a pick of your choice how about that to start the day bless you dear I hope you are having a wonderful day hug and smiles)))

[RaeLea in reply to babygirl1952]

Thank you babygirl but he’s already woke me up to start fighting and insulting me. I have nothing to look forward to.

[babygirl1952 in reply to RaeLea]

IM so sorry dear Im hoping for you that you can get out of the house today and walk the dog several times that gives you a little air to think about how you can find a way to leave ok be careful

[RaeLea in reply to babygirl1952]

Thank you I will do that. I’m so depressed and he makes fun of me for it. When I cry he laughs and says I’m faking it.

[fauxartist]

take your power back....only you can do that.... get into therapy.... and stop this, you deserve to be treated with respect.... learn to love yourself enough to do this. Ignore him, start compartmentalizing him....and live your own life.... talking about it is great...but action is the only answer..... narcs cannot stand to be ignored.... so the next time he starts yelling or complaining... walk away.

[Alexis74]

I understand, we are going to make it through, I look at it as a season in my life, God is helping me to move closer to him, and when i can fully trust i know doors will open, so easy to speak it, as i sit on my bed nearly handicapped from allowing my emotions to control my mind/life. Hang in there.