Anxiety and i feel crazy

[sabrina1989]

Hi, Im new here... for the past year I started to have anxiety attacks to the point I even got prescribed metaprolol to calm myself down. I used to get them all the time and i figured it was my job and i was stressed from that. I thought that until about 2 days ago when i really clued in on what has been causing my attacks. 3 months ago i moved away from my life in miami and i figured for sure it was my job because i didnt have any more attacks. well 2 days ago my mother in law came to visit and out of no where while she was having one of her "interrogation" talks i started to feel myself get tensed up, i was chopping up veggies and started shaking i felt like i couldnt breathe. My husband noticed this and i stopped what i was doing and went to the bathroom sit on the ground covering my ears yelling stop and crying, then i got up and took my phone and went outside. My mother in law didnt understand why i wass acting like this and she apologized after the fact when my husband explained the way she asks things and shes just too much.

The next day reflecting on how i acted i said would have called an ambulance and had me admitted because i looked crazy and i know it. I wish this didnt happen so much i feel crazy!!!

[ForwardBound]

Everybody processes things differently. She needs to approach you differently. She obviously didnt know it would set you off, but now that she does, she should change her communication style with you.

[sabrina1989 in reply to ForwardBound]

I wish she was like that but her apologies are for that moment and then she forgets and does it again because this isnt the first time. this is just the first time that it felt like a scale 20

[ForwardBound in reply to sabrina1989]

Disengage and keep your peace of mind.

[Buttercup27]

Communicating with her and explaining is the best way to reach peace about it...i had to do the same thing with my husbands mother and a few others in his family...they did not understand my Anxiety nor OCD...they do now...and its much better...Sounds like her manner of communication is a stress trigger for you...pay attention next time and see if this is truly the case...any job change or move is going to cause stress as well...what are you doing for yourself to manage?

[sabrina1989 in reply to Buttercup27]

Thank you. Well i dont have any feelings of anxiety or stress at all its only when i know shes going to be coming over or when shes around. For the most part i dont have any attacks or anything

[Clue]

Sweetheart you are not crazy! I have the same problem with my mother in law but she lives in fla now and we live in ny. But distance still doesn't make a difference. I had to change my phone number block my cell and facebook. She destroys everything in her path ruined my marriage with her son but i think that was her goal anyway. I resent my husband now for not protecting me from her lies and horrible talk. So I'm left to put myself back together now. I feel your pain. Make sure you talk to your husband tell him how she makes you feel and that she needs to stop. My husband still doesn't do that. She texts him all the time. It's just gotten worse. Good luck

[Ann10]

That sounds like an intense situation. Relationships with bit.ly/in-laws_can be tough. I hope you can work out a way to get along together.