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Kookie1980
Kookie1980

Update: So now that HR is involved with my works this situation, it has gotten worse. He somehow managed to turn everything around on me. HR was asking me if I lack confidence and how I feel about the rest of the team. Work was great before this guys started, everything I say he goes against me, no matter what. I am not being too sensitive, he literally just shoots down everything I say – he is a bully! I guess I have been bullied most of my life and never really put it into perspective. At this stage in my life, I am trying to do things the right way speak up when something is bothering me, and what happens nothing. My direct boss told me today that I need to speak to him directly after asking her a question "we need to learn to work together" Is that the way to solve this issue? It seems like I am being set up for failure! He reacts negatively to everything I say and I feel like he is retaliating because I called him out. He is a very good liar and is way more vocal than I am. It just really sucks, I feel like I have no one to turn to, and work is just not the same. I know I have just been rambling but it feels great to get this off my back. I don't know what to do leave, stay until they possibly fire me. I just can’t understand why this one person decided to pick on me.

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Have you ever read up on people who are narcissistic and/or psychopathic? It might help you to learn the signs & how to deal with them.

There’s a book entitled “How to Deal With Difficult People”. It might be worth a read.

Remember that we’re here if you need us.

Kookie1980
Kookie1980 in reply to Lakewolf

I have googled it before, but not really – thanks for the recommendation!

Kookie1980
Kookie1980 in reply to Lakewolf

I Have read a bunch of articles on how to deal with a bully in the workplace. This has really helped me put this situation into perspective, and realize that what this guy is doing is bullying me. I spent an hour today writing down everything that has happened and continues to happen. Now I just have to decide when and how to present this or do nothing and find a new job...

Lakewolf
Lakewolf in reply to Kookie1980

Please present it to management. Then you’ll know whether or not to seek another kob. You’re protecting others as well as yourself.

Remember... document everything as to date, time, and what was said.

You may also have outside resources (govt. and others) as well.

Lakewolf

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Seek legal advice if your boss doesn't sort this out. If you have any meetings in work about this problem, have someone you trust acompany you as a witness.

But as said before, document everything as it happens.

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